Another Critique of the FrameWorks Institute's Brief, Reframing Childhood Adversity: Promoting Upstream Approaches

@Christine Cissy White posted:

Yes! Because quite often less stress means more self/regulation and calm. Rebecca Lewis Pankratz talked about how her screaming at her ownkuds stopped immediately when she was no longer poor, over worked, under paid, and underinsured even though all else remained the same.

Parents have the most impact on kids, by far, and shaming, demonizing and edupuking all over parents is rarely helpful - especially as those who do it most have rarely shared the same history or stressors & often have no clue as to what’s needed and helpful or have even asked parents what would improve & support parents and parenting.

Dr. Claudia Gold speaks often about giving parents space and validation and how often that unleashed our intuition and knowing. And conversely, many will informed and well educated and even usually well resourced parents lose a lot of coping and knowing when stress overwhelms and society fails to support parents - as we’ve seen from the inequity revealed by COVID & the blatant lack of regard for the experiences and struggles of parents, poor parents, single parents, and parents of color, disabled parents, etc.

Cissy

Hi Cissy - I think Dave is trying to point out that lack of knowledge should be addressed in public policies.  With or without stress / poverty, people tend to parent the way they were parented, and do what they know.  How many people were beaten, ridiculed, or ignored as children and think they "turned out OK" so they continue the practice?  There is a wealth of knowledge that most people are unaware of regarding children's needs (physical, cognitive, emotional), positive parenting techniques, and how to prevent neglect and abuse.  Parenting education could fill that gap.  Of course less stress is helpful, but that doesn't magically fill the gap without offering science-based information about children's needs and culturally-aware parenting techniques.  Adding parenting education to a policy framework would be a valuable and necessary component to achieve improved outcomes.

Yes! Because quite often less stress means more self/regulation and calm. Rebecca Lewis Pankratz talked about how her screaming at her ownkuds stopped immediately when she was no longer poor, over worked, under paid, and underinsured even though all else remained the same.

Parents have the most impact on kids, by far, and shaming, demonizing and edupuking all over parents is rarely helpful - especially as those who do it most have rarely shared the same history or stressors & often have no clue as to what’s needed and helpful or have even asked parents what would improve & support parents and parenting.

Dr. Claudia Gold speaks often about giving parents space and validation and how often that unleashed our intuition and knowing. And conversely, many will informed and well educated and even usually well resourced parents lose a lot of coping and knowing when stress overwhelms and society fails to support parents - as we’ve seen from the inequity revealed by COVID & the blatant lack of regard for the experiences and struggles of parents, poor parents, single parents, and parents of color, disabled parents, etc.

Cissy