Having a child changes you into a parent, and as we all know, that is not a simple change; there’s nothing one-and-done about it. And having a seriously ill child changes you forever as a family; it’s important for everyone who tries to help families to understand that when one child in a family is seriously ill, or lives with a chronic disability, the siblings are also profoundly shaped by the experience.
“It’s always a challenge to make sure that each child feels valued and loved equally,” said Barbara Mandleco, who is professor emerita of nursing at Brigham Young University and has studied the siblings of children with disabilities. Parents may be so focused on getting the disabled child the necessary attention and help, she said, that they may not stay as involved in the academic, music or sports activities of the sibling.
“Family life starts to revolve around the needs of the other child,” said Emily Incledon, a clinical psychologist at the Rehabilitation Service of the Royal Children’s Hospital in Melbourne, Australia, who was the lead author on a 2013 review of mental health issues in siblings of children with chronic diseases.
[For more on this story by PERRI KLASS, M.D., go to https://www.nytimes.com/2018/0...sabled-children.html]
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