Great article with lots of nice examples on how to cultivate a strong parent-child connection. Article may be a nice printout to give parents.
"Connection Parenting," or "Attachment Parenting," refers to the deep bond that is natural, biologically speaking, between a parent and the child. "Connection Parenting" simply means being aware that the most important part of parenting is our strong bond with our child. That bond is what everything else comes from."
"At that point, at the end of the crying, you tell her the story of what happened (because you have to speak to her frontal cortex in to help her develop the neural connections to control herself). "Sweetie, so you were already having a hard time—you had a hard time at breakfast, and mommy didn't pay attention, right?" She may not know because she may not yet have developed enough self-awareness or consciousness to know she was having a hard time at breakfast and that you didn't pay attention. But, she'll nod, she'll get it at a deep level of knowing, and she'll make the connection. "Yeah, that's true." And you continue on to say, "You were trying to build a tower, and your brother knocked it down. And you were mad, right? You were so mad at him. And then what happened? I wasn't here to help you. I am so sorry I wasn't here to help." This builds a positive compassionate storyline."
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