I am studying Becky Bailey's "Conscious Discipline." It seems to be the best technique for guiding young children toward self-regulation. Dr. Bailey is a guru in the child-care industry but I find so few caregivers who can execute or implement the techniques. This is not our natural/instinctive way of handling behavior.
The book I started with is "Managing Emotional Mayhem." You might think you will be learning to manage children's behavior. But, in fact, you learn to manage your own. That is the logical starting point, isn't it?
I am practicing, practicing, practicing the techniques. I seem to be doing fine right up to the point my fiercely angry (because he has to sit in his car seat) three-year-old throws down the gauntlet, growls, and spits at me. But, I considered it a success that I took the deep breaths, kept trying to relax and got into my own feelings. I am still emotionally drained from the encounter. But, I don't feel bad about how I handled the situation because I did not use threats or power plays. I did use the minimum amount of force to buckle him in...then ran to the drivers seat and started my deep breaths.
I really think we need a 12-step program for parenting/disciplining. Would step one be to admit our addiction to poor practices? Aren't we always just on the edge of reverting to our old habits...no matter what those habits are? In all seriousness, we do need support groups for teachers/caregivers to encourage each other.
Hi, I'm Donna and I'm a spanker/yeller/threatener...
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