How Can Anyone Love Me With All of My Issues?

Christine Cissy White 5/6/151:20 PM

I bet a few high ACE scoring people can relate

I didn’t believe I could be me, who required a flow chart and three hours to explain my family or origin “situation” and who also had anxiety at times. I couldn’t think of me and the words catch, find, desirable or chosen in the same lifetime, never mind the same sentence.

http://www.elephantjournal.com...-with-all-my-issues/

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Christine Cissy WhiteIt's not trauma-informed unless it's informed by trauma survivors.

Fiona,

That thrills me and I LOVE the weights as well. I'm so glad you found something that soothes and comforts you at home or in a hotel. SO GLAD. I too find having that armor, protection, weight has remained wonderful. I don't care about all the specifics only know that it improves sleep which improves EVERYTHING. I'm so glad it speaks to you and you let me know. Thank you. And that you slept better!!!! Cissy

Your posts are really relevant Cissy! The weighted blanket one recently also rang some bells. I travel a lot for work and often struggle to sleep in soulless, strange hotel rooms and beds. After reading your post I decided to try something different on a recent trip. Weight on top of me is more triggering than comforting for me, but I put a firm pillow against my back, and one in front of me as I lay on my side so I could wrap myself around it, and had the best night's sleep away from home I've had in ages. This is now my routine and it has surprised me just how comforting and soothing this soft pressure is on my spine and against my limbs. All inspired by your post! So please know your words are having an impact and reaching far, right around the world in this case to New Zealand.

5/18/154:24 PM

Fiona Clapham HowardMember

5/18/153:42 PM

Christine Cissy WhiteIt's not trauma-informed unless it's informed by trauma survivors.

Thank you so much Fiona:

I appreciate your comment. I know others must feel similar things but it's nice to hear and now that i found my voice I can't seem to shut up.

Thanks again for commenting and thank goodness for the self-acceptance, but as you say, sometimes it's there and sometimes it's a struggle and needs to be cultivated!

Thanks again. It's nice to know others relate and are reading
Cissy

5/18/157:45 AM

Fiona Clapham HowardMember

Thank you for this blog post Cissy. I can completely relate to this line of thinking. It gets easier every year to see myself as worthy and as an attractive proposition for someone else. But by gosh, it's been a struggle at times. The key does seem to be cultivating that measure of self-acceptance, challenging the wonky thinking about being too damaged, flawed, broken beyond repair and not of value to anyone else, too complicated and too difficult. I'm glad you don't run out of material to write about as I really enjoy your posts. Keep it coming!

5/17/155:34 PM

Christine Cissy WhiteIt's not trauma-informed unless it's informed by trauma survivors.

Tina,

You are so sweet. I feel remarkably loved and lovable and that's what the piece was about. I feel it now! But I didn't always

Cis

5/7/159:06 AM

Former Member

I didn't read your post Cissy. But the title caught my eye. All of us love you --- we are trauma survivors and we inter-are.

5/6/152:39 PM

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