We may think of meditation as a way to gain inner peace and tranquility. But have you considered how a meditation practice can create a climate that deepens intimacy and improves communication?
John Gottman’s research into what makes marriages succeed rveals that when partnerships are marred by a high degree of criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness, they often end up in divorce. How can we reduce these intimacy-busting behaviors and create a climate that supports the love we want?
Uncovering Deeper Feelings
Our tendency to criticize, attack, or diagnose others (“you’re self-centered, arrogant, and only think about yourself”) can be a way to vent anger and signal our discontent. In Attachment Theory language, this may be an attachment protest—a way to act-out the pain we feel from not having the connection we want.
[For more of this story, written by John Amodeo, go to http://psychcentral.com/blog/a...s-our-relationships/]
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