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It wasn't part of my plan, but now it's my life's work

In the summer of 2011, July 22nd to be exact, I took an interim position at a school as the Director, while the school board started a search for a permanent director.  At the time I was not willing to make a permanent commitment to the school in that role. I owned two companies at the time and the school was one of my clients.  I loved what the school did and helping to bridge the leadership gap during a search process was an easy decision to make. But I also loved working with the other schools where I served as their CFO through my company.  The decision to take on that interim role has irreversibly changed my life. And I can't imagine doing anything else.  I was hired as the Executive Director at the end of the school year, and I closed my consulting company.  

 

I came to Paladin with a business focus.  I wanted the school to be the best it could be.  I wanted the data to reflect its success and I wanted the story of the school's hard work to be indisputable.  In the world of education, that meant telling the story of test scores, graduation rates, attendance rates, and fiscal strength.  It meant telling a story that was in alignment with all the pressure from news media and legislation, that focused on core standards and high stakes testing.  

 

In hindsight, I simply did not know, what I did not know.  It only took a matter of a few schools days for me to figure out that I had to dramatically change my thinking.  I was more than familiar with the school's data. I knew that most of the students were living in poverty, that most had been expelled or dropped out of other school's in the area, but what I didn't know, and could not even comprehend at that time, were the reasons behind the students' issues.  

 

During one of the first few weeks of school, we planned an all school field trip to a college fair, which was being held at the Minneapolis Convention Center.  I recall a few of the staff asking what we should do about the students who were known to have behavior challenges. I said that all students and staff were attending, and that we would make it work.  When the day arrived, and the buses were lined up in front of the school, one student, I'll call her Emily, was having a moment of anger - a loud and disruptive outburst - about having to get onto a specific bus.  I suddenly realized that this was what the other staff were referring to, if a student could behave like this about simply having to ride a specific bus, what was going to set her off once we were at the college fair? 

 

In a moment that has forever changed my view on how we work with students, I told the student to go back into the building and that she would not be attending the college fair.  Her response was explicit, and loud, and was something to the extent of, "you effing fat bi7@h, you are not going to tell me what to do, who do you think you are?" And yes, that was yelled at about 100 decibels (I might be exaggerating slightly, but not by much...) Quite honestly, I was taken aback.  Who did this girl think she was talking to? Who talks like that? Didn't she realize this was a school, and that this was a school trip? What could possibly make a decision about which bus to ride, this big of a deal?  

 

Some other staff intervened and were able to bring the young woman into my office.  I was truly baffled by her behavior and choice of words, and for that, I am very thankful.  It caused me to ask her questions, rather  than tell her how I felt about her behavior.  I asked her why she was angry, what was going on, I asked to her to help me understand, because I truly wanted to understand.  I was expecting to hear that she wanted to ride the other bus because her friends were on the other bus.  I expected to hear that she did not want me telling her that she could not go on the trip when her friends could hear everything that was going on. All of these responses would have made sense to me. 

 

Instead, this young woman burst into tears and told me that she had a fight with her mom that morning. Emily had been asleep on the couch, and her younger brother had started punching her while she was asleep. Emily yelled at her brother to knock it off, but her younger brother had persisted.  Emily got up and punched him back and yelled some more.  At that point her mom came downstairs, having been awoken by the yelling and told Emily to pack her stuff and get the "eff" out of her house.  

 

Emily was 18 years old, a super senior, and a special education student with an emotional behavior disorder.  She was over two years behind in credit, and if she could stay on task at school, she might be able to graduate by the time she turned 21.  I started to counsel her on how to repair the relationship with her mom, I made a suggestion that she sleep in her own room and keep the door closed.  And that was when she started to sob.  Emily told me that she did not have a room.  She'd been sleeping on the couch for years, and now that she was 18, she wasn't even technically allowed to live there because her mom was on assistance, Section 8 housing, and because of the number of bedrooms in the rental home, her mom had left Emily's name off the application for housing.  Had her mom listed her on the application, she would not have been able to get this home under the Section 8 rules.  

 

I was somewhat  familiar with Section 8 rules, although I surprised that this student was as informed as she was, but I also knew she was right. And I knew what it was like to grow up in a dysfunctional family. My own parents had divorced after many years of violence. My mom was bi-polar, and my dad.... well, that is a book to be written, not a blog entry.  I'd been homeless once, not for very long, but I knew how scary it was to wonder where you were going to sleep at the end of the day. And I knew that this young woman was carrying the weight of her world on her shoulders that day.

 

In an effort to try to address the issue of where this young lady was going to stay that night I suggested that she call her mom.  I figured that even if her mom was having a rough day, she didn't really want her child out on the streets that night. Emily looked doubtful, but she was willing to try calling her mom.  From the cell phone, I heard Emily's mom answer the phone, yelling, "what the he11 do you want?" Emily replied with, "Shut the eff up mom, I'm in the principal's office." To which mom replied, "You effin' ho, don't be bothering me with this effin' sh!t. I have to work tonight, I can't do sh!t to help you with your effiin' mess. Figure it out b!7@h."  And then Emily's mom hung up.   

 

So, this was not the conversation I expected.  But at least now I understood Emily's propensity for cussing.  It was part of her everyday life.  

 

Emily changed my life that day.  I suddenly understood that school was her sanctuary, and that it NEEDED to be her sanctuary.  It forced me to identify the real issues facing the students at Paladin. I spent much of that school year looking into the issues behind every incident that occurred, whether it was a verbal outburst from a student, a fight, a threat, someone skipping school to get high, we looked into everything. The team of educators knew a lot about what was going on behind the scenes in the lives of our students, but even with that knowledge, we did not have a system wide approach to addressing the real issues.  As a team, we started putting together programs to help address issues related to poverty, we connected with the county social services programs, we set aside federal No Child Left Behind funds to address issues of homelessness, and we started collecting data, a ton of data.  We already knew a lot; we knew if  a student qualified for free or reduced priced meals (poverty indicator), we knew if a student had a learning disability (special education status), we knew if a student was behind in school (earned credits compared to grade level), we knew if a student was on probation (the probation officers were visiting our school), but we did not know the "rest of the story," unless the student or family told us.  

 

It was that first year at Paladin, that we started documenting the stories of our students. That year, we even made a video, because the students themselves wanted to tell their stories. At some point that year, we created a survey for staff that listed every one of our students, and we started compiling what we did "know," that went beyond the basic demographics we typically tracked.  In that survey, we asked our team to specify how they knew what they knew.  Did they know the information from a direct source, the student told us specifically, a family member told us specifically, we had copies of medical records that were sent to us as part of an evaluation process, or something else.  We then removed any data that came to us through any means that was considered second-hand information.  The questions we asked included things like substance abuse, interactions with the legal system, single parent homes, were the students living on their own, did they have children of their own, were there other adults involved in their lives, etc. And then we analyzed what we had learned, and started planning how we could address the issues at a school wide level. 

 

This initial data led us into the world of ACEs. I did a google search for something like overcoming obstacles in education, or addressing complex childhood adversity, or something like that.  Prior to Emily, prior to that "ah-ha moment" in my office, I was solely looking at outcomes without regard to the obstacles these young people were facing.  But when digging into the backgrounds, the obstacles themselves, I found Jane Steven's article on the Huffington Post, The Adverse Childhood Experience's Study - the Largest Public Health Survey You Never Heard Of and then I found ACEs Connection. That led me (and all of us at Paladin to Jim Sporleder and the article about his school, in Walla Walla, Washington.  Suddenly we had a path to follow.  We were not the only school facing complex issues, and we knew that we needed to focus on the root causes, not the symptoms.  Our students needed to be successful in high school, but even more than that, they needed to be successful in life.  They deserved a chance to be successful, even if the cards (and the ACEs) were stacked against them.  

 

I am sharing all of this, because this is a complex journey.  Yesterday I blogged about the lack of a magic wand, about the frustration of not being able to fix something overnight, and that is true.  Addressing ACEs cannot happen in any one venue, with any one person, but rather it takes all of us. It takes communities, schools, social service organizations, medical facilities, first responders, churches, law enforcement... yes, all of us, working together to impact change.  This community gives us the opportunity to do that, to learn, to reach out, to create, to innovate, and to change lives.  

 

As for Emily.... she ended up spending a few nights at a friends house and we worked though some issues with her mom, but we didn't solve everything that week, that month, or even that year.  Emily was able to go back to her couch and that was better than the streets.  She graduated from Paladin two years ago. She is working in the medical field now and is pregnant with her second child. She has her own apartment and her own car.  She stops by to see us at school periodically, often with her daughter on her hip.  She isn't living the perfect life, but she is living a life where she earns enough money to support herself and her small family, and where she isn't in danger of daily violence.  She is still learning, still growing into adulthood, and she is hopeful for her future.  I call that a success.  

 

As for Paladin, we are in our 3rd year of our own research project modeled after the ACEs study,  but specifically looking at the obstacles facing youth and students. The hypothesis to our research is that when given a set of obstacles (variables in a student's life that have the potential to cause harm) and when addressed with a set of interventions (specifically related to the obstacles focused on ACEs and other known educational risk factors) that success in high school will increase and that success beyond high school will be more likely.  We use a comprehensive intake survey to gather information and to identify ACEs and other obstacles.  We deploy interventions and we track everything.  The outcomes at this point are looking really positive.  We think we will have enough data by the end of the five year project to actually publish results that will be considered statistically valid. And if we are successful in this project, we are looking forward to finding ways to measure the changes in brain activity, neural pathway formation, over the time frame in which interventions are deployed.  

 

I still look at test scores and graduation rates.  But my lens is completely different.  The stories are nothing like those I expected to be sharing. They are better, because they are more meaningful. They are harder for mainstream education to grasp, I think, but that makes them all the more worth telling.  Five years ago, I never would have imagined that this was the path I would be on today.  But I wouldn't change a thing. 

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Thank you for re-inspiring me today. I know that there are people out there who see trauma and feel compelled to do something about it, but most of the time I meet people who judge and dismiss people like Emily. I see parents who truly believe it is their child's "effin' mess" - as a parent myself, it is tempting to go there.

 

I hope you continue to write about your journey and one day write that book about your dad. You have a big heart, a sound intelligence and the kind of curiosity that makes for a great writer and a great human being.

I shed a couple of tears also. This story is moving and the writing is excellent. 

I have been looking into having the biggest impact when I communicate with people who I want to move into action.

I want people to get it and to get it quick. 

I found Frameworks Institute and I like what they do and their approach. 
They are a really big company and it seeems like they work with mainlt with big charities.

We can all take a page from the 2015 McArthur Foundation winner "Frameworks Institute"'s  book and apply it to our advocacy work.

Have a look around their website and learn more about what they do and how they do it.
http://www.frameworksinstitute.org


This is a good profile of Frameworks Institute methods from  Philantropy magazine https://philanthropy.com/artic...ling-Stories/228559/

Also watch this:
How Brains are Built: The Core Story of Brain Development. 4 min video by FrameWorks Institute w input by The Harvard Center for the Developing Child https://bitly.com/brain-development-in-4-min

Thanks much Leisa for this story.  Your path to understanding the truth, the complexity, the human and social challenges that often lie hidden when discussions arise about the 'achievement gap' between those who succeed in school and those who do not, is a valuable one on so many levels.

 

The genuine curiosity, empathy, and individualized attention applied to Emily's circumstances surely shines the light on more humane and, I believe, ultimately effective ways to provide the support and interventions she needed to get on a positive path.  Unfortunately, schools as they are currently organized, and the systems within which they operate, are not set up to provide that attention.  They are not populated with adults who are able to interact with 'the problem students' in such a way.  And that is no surprise because the culture of the education system is to teach and produce, teach and produce, teach and produce, and as Henry Ford would tell you, one of the most efficient ways to produce something in great quantities [millions of graduates] is to create an assembly line....where the product travels along on the conveyor belt, with a quality checker at the ready to pick off and discard any products carrying defects...

 

The U.S. factory model established in the industrial era has shown itself to be incredibly ineffective at fulfilling its mission.  As Sir Kenneth Robinson notes in one of his excellent talks on the American education system:

"...I knew that Americans get irony when I came across that legislation No Child Left Behind. Because whoever thought of that title gets irony, don't they, because.. because it's leaving millions of children behind. Now I can see that's not a very attractive name for legislation: Millions of Children Left Behind. I can see that. What's the plan? Well, we propose to leave millions of children behind, and here's how it's going to work..."

 See: ted talks/ken_robinson_how_to_escape_education_s_death_valley 

 

I believe that many "Emily's" would never reach the point of crisis you encountered her in if the system was less 'factory-style' oriented.  [I recommend viewing some of Dr. Robinson's other TED Talks on reimagining the education system.]  My point being, as things stand, the number of 'Emily's' currently overwhelm the system's capacity to provide the individualized interventions you so eloquently described in your example, particularly as students with the types and numbers of ACES that Emily had in her environment are often concentrated in certain schools, certain neighborhoods.

 

That the problem is not solely one in high-poverty schools and districts is illustrated by the intermittent clusters of teen suicides by students in 2 high schools in Palo Alto, California (home of Stanford, nestled in affluent Santa Clara County, breeding ground for silicon valley).  Teens there are jumping in front of commuter trains at the pace of one per month so far this year.  A similar spike occurred in 2009 and then again in 2010.  I'm curious how individualized was the attention given to these kids in their 'high performing' high schools.

 

Instead of No Child Left Behind we need a No Life Left Behind approach to reaching, then teaching our children.

 

Thanks again for your posts and for the helpful links you shared within.

 

Edwin

 

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