There is a national challenge to understand child and adult welfare. I have spent my whole life...42 years being trained to advocate and teach healthy dynamics, and for me it was life and death because my ACE score was either going to be a crutch or a gift. My training began in my mother's womb. I started my development out being fed stress chemicals, and fear chemicals, because my mother was surrounded by toxic stress, poor choice behaviors, and a family who did not support her. She is one of my best friends today, but I didn't get to meet her till I was 18 years old. My heart has multiplied compassion, because that is exactly what my Mother needed, AND I will change the thinking in my environment!
Yep.... I'm adopted and I wish community members, foster, and adoptive parents spoke about biological parents with dignity and respect, because every time you put my birth mom down you put 1/2 of me down. And when you put my biological dad down, you put the other 1/2 of me down. This works the same for divorce. Healthy people don't hurt or abandon their children, so what happened to my parents to cause them to abandon me at birth? And why do awful things happen to children every day in biological, foster, and adoptive families? Please be kind always..... Talk to your kids about their parents with curiosity and a day may come where you need to support their exploration in finding out about who they are and where they come from. All they need to know is you are right there to support them. The last thing you want is for them to grow with anger and resentment deserved or not, it is toxic to their growth. Can we all learn an attitude that promotes peace. Matt Furlong - Therapeutic Foster/Adoptive Parent Advocate and Educator
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