The Best Gift You Can Give Your Children

Svava Brooks 2/7/1712:35 PM

Good parenting isn’t easy! As you can imagine, it was really hard for me in the beginning. To be honest, I was terrified. I had no idea what good parenting looked like. I just knew I wanted my kids to have a healthier, happier, safer childhood than mine. But I didn’t know how to make that happen.

So I did the best I could. I wasn’t abusive to them, but I struggled in the emotional areas. I didn’t know how important it was to be present for them. Giving a child your total and complete attention is how you demonstrate a child’s worth. This is the kind of love I had always craved as a child but never received, so I didn’t know how to do this for my kids.

Now I’m making up for lost time. I want my kids to feel heard. I do this by demonstrating full body listening and eye contact, while I lovingly hear every word they say to me.

It’s never too late to start. Begin today. It doesn’t matter how old your kids are now or where they live. We all need parents who are connected to their hearts and not afraid to validate our worth by hearing what we have to say.

This week I told each of my children what I love most about them. They responded by telling me that I’m their role model. What they love most about me is all the love coming out of me. They can actually feel that love energy whenever I’m near. Even their friends talk about it!

That makes my heart sing, because I want my kids to see what it feels like to be a wholehearted, loving, compassionate adult. It’s an honor to be able to demonstrate this for them.

No family is perfect. But we try to understand each other. Kindness is a top priority. No ridiculing or judgment is allowed. Consequently, we live in a peaceful home.

This would have made all the difference to me when I was growing up. You can give the gift of a peaceful home to your children, too. Start today. Your kids will thank you!
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Svava BrooksMember

Scott Frost posted:
That's what I tried to do with my son starting in 1969 when he was born. However, about a yr and a half ago I learned I've had ptsd since the 3rd grade. Over the years I've noticed a decreasing ability to feel. When I told him of this diagnosis he said, "That explains a lot." His biological mom was heavily sexually abused by her father for years as a small child. Our son is a very loving man who chews his nails. Lovely article. Thank you.

I hear you Scott. I honor you for keep going and for having helped your son to make sense of it all. Be gentle with yourself. I am glad this article found you and you connected with it. You are welcome.

2/13/1711:07 AM

Scott FrostMember

That's what I tried to do with my son starting in 1969 when he was born. However, about a yr and a half ago I learned I've had ptsd since the 3rd grade. Over the years I've noticed a decreasing ability to feel. When I told him of this diagnosis he said, "That explains a lot." His biological mom was heavily sexually abused by her father for years as a small child. Our son is a very loving man who chews his nails. Lovely article. Thank you.

2/13/1710:54 AM

Rene HowittMember

This is why parenting education should be prioritized in this country. Many parents want to do and be better but the only model they may have is from their own childhood. So they know what they don't want to do but still haven't learned how to do this better or different. Is your local school district making parenting and child development education a priority?

2/8/176:27 AM