I've studied human development and family-system functioning professionally for 33 years. I conclude that a largely-unhrecognized source of personal and social "problems" is an inherited [wounds + unawareness] cycle:
1) young kids are parented ineffectively, and develop up to six specific psychological "wounds" to survive.
2) without parental recovery and family-system imporovement, kids leave home and choose similarly-wounded, unaware mates - repeatedly. Many of them eventually divorce.
3) They have children and unintentionally abandon, neglect and/or abuse them - so their kids inherit a mix of [wounds and unawareness]; and...
4) their kids grow up, leave home, and repeat and spread this cycle - inexorably stressing and weakening our society..
Our society (including the media) is unaware of this lethal cycle, and has no meaningful laws or programs to prevent unqualified child-conception and ineffective parenting.
Note that growing up with psychologically-wounded, unaware (ineffective) adults is an "Adverse Childhood Experience" that happens gradually over a child's ealy years. It is a damaging process, not a definitive "event."
My nonporofit, non-denominational, ad-free educational "Break the Cycle!" Web site offers specific ways to infotrm parents and "Grown Wounded Children" (GWCs) of how to avoid passing on [wounds + unawareness] to the next genefrations.
I would greatly value your reactions to this proposed cycle concept!
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