[webinar] Strengthening Positive Childhood Experiences in Collaboration with Families

I’d really like to find statistics on the occurrence of the [dysfunctional] parenting that results in the debilitating "core shame" condition, itself largely consisting of lifelong self-loathing.

For example, postpartum depression can result in the exclusion of shared/joyful interaction with an infant, an omission that typically has serious emotional/psychological consequences for that infant during life.

In his informative book SHAME: Free Yourself, Find Joy and Build True Self-Esteem [pgs. 47-48] — which involves the various forms/degrees of shame, including the especially emotionally/mentally crippling life curse known as “core shame” — Dr. Joseph Burgo writes:

“When brain development goes awry, the baby senses on the deepest level of his being that something is terribly wrong — with his world and with himself. As the psychoanalyst James Grotstein has described it, ‘These damaged children seem to sense that there is something neurodevelopmentally wrong with them, and they feel a deep sense of shame about themselves as a result.’

“Throughout my work I have referred to this experience as ‘core shame.’ It is both intense and global. Under conditions that depart widely from the norm, shame also becomes structural, an integral part of developing child’s felt self. Rather than feeling beautiful and worthy of love, these children come to feel defective, ugly, broken, and unlovable.”