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What trauma did to our kid (medium.com)

 

In the early ’90s, my husband and I adopted our son, Jorge. Diagnosed with “Reactive Attachment Disorder” (RAD) shortly after coming to our place, Jorge lived the life the separated kids have lived. This is the story of how we survived those early years. The story of raising a RAD child. The story of his survival.

So what is it like to live with RAD?

It is scary. It can be frustrating. It hurts every time you think about what they have been through. You want to take them in your arms and make it better, but you can’t. Some things are very hard to overcome. Here are the ones that were hardest for us to come to grips with:

  • No differentiation between family and strangers
  • Kids with RAD don’t know how to trust
  • There is no punishment that touched him
  • Staying connected is hard work
  • Kids in the system lose who they are
  • RAD kids don’t have traditions

 

Read More of Kathy Jacob's enlightening story at  https://medium.com/the-plan-b-...our-kid-70f6c5ee12bf

 

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Been there and done that. We also adopted our daughter (China) where the going false idea is that kiddos from China are (or were) well-taken care of. Our daughter also diagnosed with RAD  now continues to suffer from complex trauma and PTSD - one of our professionals who understood the issues told us our daughter wat the trauma poster child - she has never been able to speak but understand fully. One of the biggest mistakes we made was to enroll her in school - we had to pull her out because the staff would not listen to the professionals or us about how to approach her in a trauma-informed posture. The school made our situation so much worse.  I will forever have to live with that decision.  We moved from a very affluent and well-known county in the DC metro area to another county where the staff did indeed listen - but our daughter was never able to navigate a classroom (b/c it became a trigger) again. Instead, they look to us as the trauma experts and come to the house with a plan - we've since made progress but it can be derailed so easily without managing the triggers. 

I went back to school and pursued a master's degree in Applied Behavior Analysis - all my research was in the area of early childhood trauma.  I also wrote an article for teachers and other educators - the content is really logical but so many in schools remain clueless. 

One of the best things we did for our daughter was to apply for and get her a service dog. He does interrupt behaviors and other task-trained specific things for herMy daughter with her Dad




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