Shame is common to the human condition but ACEs heighten shame in many harmful ways. Denying shame prevents us from healing it. The solution lies in bringing shame out into the light of day and making it an ally.
Although the challenges can be greater for survivors of ACEs, developing emotional intelligence is vital for successful, satisfying living. Emotional intelligence begins with self-awareness and understanding eight key principles.
Like most children who live through abuse and neglect, I always blamed myself – but here’s how I learnt to break the generational cycle The very worst thing that happened to us over the holidays was our toddler fathoming how to play Sia’s Santa is Coming for Us, on repeat. Excruciating pop aside, to be safe and warm and surrounded by love at home is a blessing we cherish. From Ukraine to Israel and Gaza and Sudan to Southport , the levels of violence against children in 2024 were harrowing.
If perfectionism is the enemy of good, compassionate, flexible striving for excellence may be the wiser approach.
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Did you know… research on positive childhood and adult experiences and the impacts of these experiences on health and wellbeing across the lifespan is growing exponentially! A simple search for PCEs alone last week through The George Washington University library system yielded 62 new peer-reviewed publications year-to-date in 2024 , up from 42 in all of 2023, and 22 in 2022. This year I have developed a close personal relationship with my university library as I have tried to keep up with...
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Michael J. Menard’s fascinating book recounts how fourteen children faced uncommon challenges. Yet most of them found the way to overcome their struggles and thrive.
The rigid pursuit of perfection poses a high risk to health and performance. A kinder, more flexible approach to pursuing high standards leads to better health and performance. Perfectionism, which is motivated by fear and self-doubt, is often rooted in adverse childhood experiences.
The body often tells the real story of trauma better than the thinking mind. Before one can verbalize and complete the trauma story, one typically must return to physical equilibrium. Trauma expert Levine explains ways to calm physical and emotional responses to trauma and regain a sense of wholeness.
The Mr. Nice Guy syndrome's dysfunctional thought patterns are common in survivors of adverse childhood experiences. Uprooting these patterns can improve self-esteem and relationships.
The Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome is a curious mixture of appealing strengths, insecurities, and problematic behaviors rooted in adverse childhood experiences. Mr. Nice Guy compensates for hidden childhood wounds by struggling to do everything right, but the syndrome's limited gains come at a cost. The syndrome suggests strategies for a more satisfying adulthood and better relationships.
Acevedo-Garcia, D., McArdle, N., Shafer, L., & Noelke, C. The State of Racial/Ethnic Equity in Children’s Neighborhood Opportunity: First Findings from the Child Opportunity Index 3.0. diversitydatakids.org and Brandeis University. https://www.diversitydatakids.org/research-library/state-racialethnic-equity-childrens-neighborhood-opportunity The Children’s Hospital Association (CHA) has integrated the Child Opportunity Index into its Pediatric Health Information System (PHIS), a vast...
Time and willpower alone will not typically alter overwhelming, disturbing memories from childhood. Seven deadly thoughts can keep survivors of adverse childhood experiences from utilizing effective paths to healing. Disputing these thoughts can open one up to finally heal.
Workshop after workshop asks people to check off their ACE's. Then, presenters tell you about your odds of having all sorts of adverse, unhealthy, or worrisome outcomes. You face doom without mitigation, as the story is told. As a clinician and behavioral scientist, one needs to take a sip of water and some steady breathing before resigning one's self or to affected individuals to the dung heap of life. I recall the first time I heard a breathless clinician talking about ACE's about...