Tagged With "Attachment"

As an Asian male in his forties and a single dad to a teenage son, I've always felt it hasn't been easy to meet women that I can connect with. In addition, my track record of being in relationships has been far from stellar. As a childhood abuse survivor, I unknowingly took the pain I endured into my relationships. With zero self-awareness, I was insecure and needy, which resulted in a lot of angry outbursts and emotional abuse towards my partners

I knew I didn’t have the best childhood possible, but I didn’t realize it was that bad until after my life crashed down around me at age 42. When I realized I had built my adult life on lies, I had to go back to ground zero and figure out why and get to the core so I could build the rest of my life on a foundation of truth.

Thanks so much for writing and posting your reflection and applied learning of attachment. It's a process, isn't it, getting the knowledge we need to be able to make the conscious changes in our lives and psyches we need to make to heal and move on. Thanks for your participation in our community, I look forward to hearing more about your journey and work. Elizabeth

You're welcome! My pleasure. I'd love to be able to help other men with similar struggles feel more engaged in these conversations, by sharing my own lived experiences.

Hi Jason, Thanks so much for willing to be open and vulnerable in this forum. I have no doubt that many others will appreciate what you've shared and able to relate to it. Sharing your personal journey of discovery and growth is powerful testimony about finding meaning in suffering and hope for healing. As is said 'ACEs are fact, not fate.' Denise

Dr. Gabor Mate is a Canadian treasure. Here are some classic messages and resources for easy reference.

Thank you for sharing these resources, Elizabeth!

I am such a huge Gabor Mate follower. He is an inspiration and for me up there with all of the greats! Someday I hope to tell him how significant his work has been through my own journey, and a influence of my own personal work in helping to free woman from trauma. so glad to see this mutual admiration for this great leader. Amber B

Great to hear Amber that you also value Dr. Gabor Mate. Denise and I are both great fans too. He's certainly changing the way we think about addiction and it would appear we are finally making some inroads into "culture change" based on recent news reports of policy proposal and change re access to safe use sites and supply.