Cissy's note: I love the gentle tone of this article and the advice given from the lessons learned and been there kind of a place.
That said, please know it's not survival mode the way everyone means survival mode. It's more survival mode as in sleep-deprived or stretched feeling and not so much the survival mode of single parenting, poverty, health challenges, having to work and being or feeling unsafe.
However, I share it for the gems that it does have and the reminder to perhaps try on a little self-tenderness.
Here's an excerpt from the article by Echo Vetter.
4 | Think of life like a bullseye and decide that for now the only things that matter are what can fit in the red center of the bullseye. For us, this looks like laundry, dishes, groceries, work, paying bills, and spending time together as a family. This meant living in a dusty house and driving dirty cars but hey, we were together and we were relatively happy.
One practical way to determine the bullseye would be to grab a note card and each write what you most value in the home, the marriage, the family. Then only that which is listed on the note card gets attention. If it’s not on the one note card, it doesn’t exist.
5 | Remember that what kids (and spouses) really need from us are our eyes, ears, and arms. The rest is superfluous. It’s okay to exist solely on the couch for a season. The couch is a great place to offer those three things.
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