Although no magic formula exists for helping children of color get through the racial dynamics of our society, here are a few things that research tells us are useful:
1. Talking is both said and unsaid
You may believe that you have said all the things you want to say to your child, especially the things the research indicates most parents of color say to their children's cultural socialization (or pride), preparation for bias, promotion of distrust, and equality, but have you also noticed what you are not saying to them? If the TV is on and you are full of emotion, do you explain to your child what it is that is making you so scared and frustrated? RES is not just the explicit sharing of messages, it is also implicit what we don't say is just as important as what we do say. This is true for actions too What we do and don't do both provide models for our children. Children are always watching (and parents thought they had eyes in the back of their head!), so be mindful of what they see and how you explain your actions. Read more.
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