Here's some writing by Laura Parrott Perry on that whole forgiveness thing. It's clear, honest and helpful. Excerpted from her blog:
“I wondered if that was how forgiveness budded;
not with the fanfare of epiphany,
but with pain gathering its things,
packing up,
and slipping away unannounced in the middle of the night.”
Khaled Hosseini
Recently, I’ve found myself part of many conversations around the topic of forgiveness. Forgiveness is something I think many people fundamentally misunderstand- I know I did for a very, very long time.
I spoke at Wild Goose last week and got a question from a survivor wondering if she owed her abuser forgiveness. I had another question about the timeline for forgiveness. Another about whether it’s truly ever possible. Another from a woman who copped to not wanting to forgive. Just flat out not wanting to.
Oh, do I so totally get that.
Let’s start here. Let’s parse out the three things people are talking about, generally, when they discuss forgiveness.
There’s, y’know, forgiveness.
Then there’s reconciliation.
Then there’s absolution.
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