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As child abuse survivors, we work really hard to do the best we can with our children. We want them to have what we didn’t. So we try to create a healthy, nourishing environment to help our kids grow and thrive in the best way possible. But after working all day, sometimes there isn’t much left of us for our children. That used to bother me a lot. I felt like I wasn’t giving my kids 100% of what they needed from me. Finally, I realized I was trying to give them what “I” felt they needed, not...

[Editor's note: Dr. Harise Stein at Stanford University edits a web site -- abuseresearch.info -- that focuses on the health effects of abuse, and includes research articles on ACEs. Every month, she will post the summaries of the abstracts and links to research articles that address only ACEs. Thank you, Harise!! -- Jane Stevens] Altamimi D, Almuneef M, Albuhairan F, Saleheen H. Examining the relationship between child maltreatment and school performance in public schools in Saudi Arabia: A...

Of the tens of thousands of communities across the U.S. (cities, counties, regions and states), we think a few hundred have launched ACEs initiatives so far. Two common obstacles that initiatives run up against are: What do we do once we all agree that everyone should know about ACEs science ? And, how do we measure our progress? Today we’re officially rolling out new guidelines, tools — and an app! — for that! Growing Resilient Communities 2.0 answers question #1. If the initiative’s goal...

It would be so much easier if emotionally neglectful parents wore a sign on their heads. And although many, if they are more obvious, like narcissistic, authoritarian or addicted parents, may be far easier to identify..., most emotionally neglectful parents are generally well-meaning. They want to be good parents, but they simply do not know what to do. They do not know that they need to validate their children’s emotions, or how to do it. Here’s the most important point: it does not matter...

Three new studies suggest racial economic inequality remains robust, despite the skewed views of many Americans. A new study finds Americans wildly overestimate the progress we have made toward racial economic equality. Ironically, this news comes days after other research revealed a growing wage gap between blacks and whites, as well as an entrenched hiring bias against African Americans. "These findings suggest a profound misperception of, and unfounded optimism regarding, societal...

Please save these dates. Come join these amazing leaders chatting online about ACEs, n eurofeedback, self-care & guided imagery. Parenting with ACEs Fall 2017 Chat Series Sebern Fisher / Neurofeedback for ACEs Oct. 10th (10 AM / 1 PM EST) @Sebern Fisher Donna Jackson Nakazawa / Well-Being, Self-Care & ACEs Nov. 14th (10 AM / 1 PM EST) Belleruth Naparstek / Guided Imagery for Parents w/ ACEs Dec. 12th (10 AM / 1 PM EST) More details about each of our featured guests...

Kerri Walker has been in two relationships involving domestic violence. Like many survivors, she was hit repeatedly. She was diagnosed with a traumatic brain injury (TBI) and even suffered an aneurysm. “So when I say my brain is special, it’s special,” she says. Over the years, Walker, 52, has made many adjustments, including moving from a shelter in Ohio to a new life in Arizona. “We all get forgetful the older we get,” she said. “But if you’ve had an injury and if you’ve had trauma in your...

(Cissy's Note: Several men have joined the Parenting with ACEs Community recently as a result of our recent chat on Fathers & ACEs . If you are one of them, welcome to this community. Just a reminder that ALL MEMBERS OF COMMUNITY ARE ENCOURAGED TO SHARE HERE. Please share essays, articles, research, resources, questions, stories, and statistics. Add calendar events to the calendar. Get a discussion going in the discussion section. Leave comments for one another. If you have questions or...

Change Agent is back for a second season of conversations with innovators and creative leaders in the field of Family Violence Prevention and Advocacy. This Season includes six interviews with social entrepreneurs from various backgrounds in the San Francisco Bay Area. Next week begins the season with Cherri Allison, Esq., Executive Director of the Alameda County Family Justice Center. Ms. Allison practiced family law where she imagined the work of a Family Justice Center before these...

Many of my colleagues in the field of early childhood mental health work with what are termed "high risk" populations. Children of drug addicted parents, victims of child abuse, and families in abject poverty. While the challenges these families face are daunting, I find myself feeling some envy for my colleagues whose clients are in such obvious distress that the need for intensive treatment of parent and infant is not in question. In my rural, small-town population things are not so clear.

Here's the link to today's online chat. Here's more about our guests and the topics we'll cover. Even if you can't make the live event - you can still leave questions, comments or resources related to Fathers, ACEs and Parenting with ACEs. Those will become part of the transcript which is saved online. See this image to find out where/how to add your comments or resources ahead of the chat.

So if you are a parent from a wounded background striving to raise your kids differently, if you are silently waging your own battles the rest of the world can't see, I want you to know that you are awesome. Parenting is damn hard, even with good psycho-emotional tools, so naturally it may feel impossible sometimes. But you've got this. Keep choosing that phone booth. Don't give up. When you feel weary, remember this: The rewards for your efforts to break the cycle of abuse are vast and...