The Mr. Nice Guy syndrome's dysfunctional thought patterns are common in survivors of adverse childhood experiences. Uprooting these patterns can improve self-esteem and relationships.

Former PACEs Connection employees Dana Brown (L) with Vincent Felitti, MD, co-author of the 1998 Adverse Childhood Experiences study, and Carey Sipp (R) in San Diego in January, 2024. The last few months have been quite challenging, but we pushed, persevered, and didn’t give up hope. The “we” is Carey Sipp and Dana Brown. We were long-time staff members of PACEs Connection determined to reinstate the website and the resources and information we provide to communities after the platform went...

The Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome is a curious mixture of appealing strengths, insecurities, and problematic behaviors rooted in adverse childhood experiences. Mr. Nice Guy compensates for hidden childhood wounds by struggling to do everything right, but the syndrome's limited gains come at a cost. The syndrome suggests strategies for a more satisfying adulthood and better relationships.

The latest Surviving Spirit Newsletter - Hope, Healing & Help for Trauma, Abuse & Mental Health is out - It can be read online via this & you can also subscribe - http://ml.survivingspirit.com/dada/mail.cgi/archive/newsletter/20241014192949/ or this https://www.survivingspirit.com/pdfs/2024-10-The_Surviving_Spirit_Newsletter_October_2024.pdf Newsletter Contents : 1] Creative Activists: A Bridge of Light by Rae Luskin 2] The Hole in the Heart — Taking Back Ourselves by Mikele...

“...you cannot heal what you do not acknowledge, and what you do not consciously acknowledge will remain in control of you from within, festering and destroying you and those around you.”-Richard Rohr “Childhood trauma does not come in one single package.” – Dr. Asa Don Brown “I have learned that some of the nicest people you’ll ever meet are those who have suffered a traumatic event or loss. I admire them for their strength, but most especially for their life gratitude - a gift often taken...

Q&A with Mike Skinner, advocate for survivors of childhood abuse. Article excerpt - Goffstown’s Mike Skinner is a survivor of childhood sex trafficking at the hands of his parents. Two of his siblings took their own lives. He feels that trauma, particularly childhood trauma, lies beneath and is a definitive factor of what is termed “mental illness.” If you get run over by a Mack truck there will be tire tracks. The statistics from the CDC are sobering. One out of four women is sexually...

“The strongest principal of growth lies in human choice.” – George Eliot “That which is loved by the heart is the remedy.” - Kenyan proverb “Go to where the silence is and say something” - Amy Goodman A Cold Wind Blows by Michael Skinner - live performance - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v6R924Hv5hY

The latest Surviving Spirit Newsletter - Hope, Healing & Help for Trauma, Abuse & Mental Health is out - It can be read online via this & you can also subscribe - http://ml.survivingspirit.com/dada/mail.cgi/archive/newsletter/20240723222246/ or this - https://www.survivingspirit.com/pdfs/2024-07-The_Surviving_Spirit_Newsletter_July_2024.pdf “ We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may...

Thoughts & Music to Share on Healing: “You never find yourself until you face the truth.” - Pearl Bailey. “Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough.” - Don Keigh. “Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong.” - Mandy Hale. Songs of Life, Love, Loss & Hope - Set 1 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2sOd1-EvpRI&list=PLNo1_n8gKo04E3qthz3_1ZkJrf_HYR8JU&index=17&t=7s

The latest Surviving Spirit Newsletter - Hope, Healing & Help for Trauma, Abuse & Mental Health is out - It can be read online via this & you can also subscribe - http://ml.survivingspirit.com/dada/mail.cgi/archive/newsletter/20240527204200/ or this - https://www.survivingspirit.com/pdfs/2024-05-The_Surviving_Spirit_Newsletter_May_2024.pdf “ The place of true healing is a fierce place. It's a giant place. It's a place of monstrous beauty and endless dark and glimmering light. And...

“The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.” - Caroline Myss “But one thing for sure, if you do not address your trauma, it will undress you.” - Sharon Wise “We can't always choose the music life plays for us, but we can choose how we dance to it.” - Unknown Michael Skinner trauma healing w/ Pat Deegan - - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-g_mw4F_2o&t=46s

To all of you, who, like me, love this website and want to see it and its communities flourish as we work to prevent and heal trauma; build resiliency: please know there is a move afoot by a small group of strategic partners to find a suitable host for PACEs Connection. More will be announced in the coming days. In the meantime, friends, we are figuring out email addresses and other communications logistics and opportunities. PEACE! Carey Sipp, former director of strategic partnerships ...