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We all know that experiencing trauma can profoundly impact our perspective of the world, especially for men. Unfortunately, it can be difficult for men to find an outlet to express their hurt or pain due to societal expectations. Men are often taught that showing emotion or crying out of pain is a sign of weakness and are encouraged to conceal their true feelings. It's essential to recognize that men who have survived traumatic events may experience symptoms that they might not be aware of.

The 'cycle of trauma' concept presents an understanding of how potentially overwhelming experiences can lead to insecurities, a lack of trust in oneself, and a feeling that one is incapable of taking care of oneself. This can create lasting changes to relationships with other people, or even the environment around us. Individuals raised in environments based on trauma may withdraw from meaningful relationships or disconnect from their surrounding communities, leading to feelings such as...

Are you over 60 and successful despite your Adverse Childhood Experiences? Are you realizing that it’s truly now or never for your Soul’s original desire? Do you want to secure your Soul’s full incarnation before you leave this Earth? Are there family relationships you’d like to mend?

Mental health is a crucial part of life, enabling us to cope with daily stresses and handle different roles -- such as being a parent, sibling, employee, or friend -- comfortably. Struggling in any of these areas may indicate that something isn't right. On the other hand, mental illness is an existing condition that affects our thoughts and behaviors. The cost of living in Kenya has caused elevated stress levels and various related issues; lack of sleep; increase in accidents, crime rate,...

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Everyone knows that trauma isn't a joke – it messes with your head and changes the way you look at life. But dudes have it especially tough – there's pretty much nowhere for them to offload their pain because crying and expressing emotions is seen as weak and unmanly. This whole culture of masculinity is really messed up and keeps guys from talking about or dealing with their hurt. Men often bear the brunt of traumatic events, but too often these effects are pushed aside in favor of a facade...

Writing about childhood trauma in March has inspired me to bring back this blog I wrote about disconnection and longing. Trauma causes us to disconnect from ourselves, other people and the earth as a whole. This leads to us living in fear and deeply distrusting other people. In my opinion the most painful disconnection is the internal one. Where a person is disconnected from themselves, their bodily sensations and emotions. The brain is wired to protect us from trauma. So, it automatically...

It is common for movies to end the story with, "They lived happily ever after." In real life, we only hear about toxic and hurtful romantic relationships. However, it all begs the question, can we have passion beyond the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship? The answer is yes. However, it is fair to note that passion is not the only measure of a healthy relationship. It is only the starting point. Other things that matter are: shared values relatable beliefs compatible communication patterns...

"I do not ask for much." It is a common phrase. I have heard it in multiple movies, tv-series, and chats with friends. I definitely know it is said and embodied as a form of self-protection. I mean, why ask for much when it can all be taken away in a blink? "You know how you feel that you need more of something, but you dare not ask for more? Usually, you are afraid that if you ask for more, even what you are being offered will be taken away." Read the full blog here . However, now that I am...

This is one of the most common questions to be asked. Dysfunction is so common nowadays you would think it's the norm. But it should not be. The truth is that humans are social beings. More than that, we deserve healing, safe and dignified relations. This would also mean that we can finally do our most profound healing in safe relationships. Last week I wrote about intergenerational trauma and how it impacts our relationships. The bottom line is that it did not begin with us. We all come...

February is the month of love. It's only fitting to talk about relationships built on trauma. For a long time, I have read about how many people feel hurt by toxic relationships. However, I wonder what exactly was unhealthy about the said relationships. If we were to have candid discussions around these things we would mention codependency, manipulation, gaslighting, savior mentality, and a lot more. The way we approach relationships, in general, has to shift. We deserve healthy, safe, and...

Restoring Well-being is about contributing to communities, and our purpose is to restore relationships. Restoring relationships is central to our purpose because we realize that there are many ways you can help others in your community and beyond. The more often you choose to immerse yourself in community, the better chance you have of developing meaningful friendships, personal challenges, and a sense of connection with people around you. This can also include strengthening bonds with...