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Trauma can bring about growth [NCROnline.org]

 

In the second article of this series, I focused on hope and healing for survivors of sexual abuse. Here, I extend the discussion beyond healing to discuss the possibility, now validated through research, that some trauma survivors actually experience post-traumatic growth.

If healing can occur from the truly devastating consequences of adverse childhood experiences -- including sexual abuse by clergy -- can survivors also experience meaningful growth through their confrontation with trauma? Can post-traumatic growth also occur in institutions that fostered abuse, as well as in the advocacy organizations that have worked on behalf of survivors?

Let me be very clear: No one ever is "better off" because they were abused or suffered other adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). Every child and adolescent is entitled to a "good enough" childhood where suffering is manageable and betrayal is minimal.

Unfortunately, too many children and teens are faced with soul-battering betrayals, abuse, neglect or terrifying family dynamics that send normal developmental pathways, including those related to the brain, off the rails.



[For more of this story, written by Mary Gail Frawley-O'Dea, go to http://ncronline.org/news/acco...n-bring-about-growth]

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Greetings, Samantha and All!  Dwayne, here! 

Thank you for this insightful post!  I spent much of my life suffering from abuses; and then suffering more, from my failed attempts to cope with those realities.  But, each time -- from adolescence to the present day (I'm 54, now) -- I have taken the disturbed earth and used it to grow an opportunity.  I am a Peer Counsellor... I began this ministry as a teenager, still trying to fathom all that had happened and was happening still; and I reached out to other troubled youth, and did my best o help them navigate any related official waters... As my own spirituality deepened and broadened; I reached out to other spiritual seekers... When I was involved in evangelical ministries, I reached back to pastors and such; to help them understand the practical needs of their faith-families... After i got a strong foothold with my own 12-Step Recovery; I reached out to other folk, dealing with addictions... As i found some recovery for early mental health problems; I reached out to other mental health clientele... Dealing with my disabilities (physical & mental); I reached out to others who also need support in their recovery... I looked after my mother (brought her into my home) for her final 9-1/2 years; and, with my own health issues as well, began to broaden my peerage to include seniors... And most recently, as I have come to terms with various criminal activities -- that I woefully tried to use to cope with or obliterate, the abuses I'd suffered -- I am now registered with local and provincial authorities as a Peer Counsellor for prisoners and ex-cons... 

So, at each turn of the soil, I have endeavoured to expand my peerage, so that something positive can come out of my widespread trauma.  And, for that reason, your article struck a harmonious chord with me!  

Peace & Blessings!   

Rev. L. Dwayne Decker 

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