Trauma. “A widespread, harmful and costly public health problem. It occurs as a result of violence, abuse, neglect, loss, disaster, war and other emotionally harmful experiences. Trauma has no boundaries with regard to age, gender, socioeconomic status, race, ethnicity, geography or sexual orientation.”

To say that COVID-19 has in some way been a traumatic experience for everyone would be an understatement. It has had far reaching effects on individual health and well-being and economic stability. And now, it is affecting how many of us will spend our holiday season to celebrate the things we hold most dear.

In light of this, Healthy Charlotte would like to offer a few tips adapted from Recognizing Holiday Triggers of Trauma released by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Administration (SAMHSA) in April of this year.

1. “Plan now.” Be proactive and create a plan that fits your schedule and emotional capacity. Don’t be afraid to speak with your family about your hopes, wishes, and desires for the holiday season and maintain realistic expectations of what can and cannot happen.
2. “Ask yourself, ‘What helps and what hurts?’ .” This can work as a “gut-check” and helps identify if something is what you or your kids and family need right now. What could you all do instead?
3. “Think about how the holiday season impacts you.” Consider what your own holiday triggers are and take the time to “notice your own responses.”
4. “Pay attention to nutrition and exercise.” Be intentional about taking care of your body. Stay hydrated and have accountability. Try not to overindulge and make a habit of going for a walk after each meal.
5. Finally, “create meaningful rituals.” Because of social distancing and mandates in several counties and states to limit gatherings, many of our traditions must be modified or simply stopped all-together. Though hurtful, this is a great opportunity for creativity and for thinking outside the box. Try and create new rituals or traditions! What are new traditions you can start, even virtually?

The holidays are a special time of year for everyone. The current state of our world has unfortunately set limitations on how we celebrate one of the most exciting times of the year. For many people, an already emotionally daunting time of year has now become even more disheartening because of the devastation of COVID-19. Let’s be mindful and kind to each other this season. Emotional health is just as precious and important as physical health and safety. Protect your peace, “offer the piece/peace you can” (thank you Peace4Tarpon) and remember that you are never alone.

If you or if you suspect that someone is contemplating suicide, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (1-800-273-TALK).

If you are a Veteran or Service Member,  you can reach the Veterans Crisis Line by pressing 1 after dialing 1-800-273-8255 (1-800-273-TALK), chatting online at www.veteranscrisisline.net, or texting 838255.