Tagged With "Dreya Novak"

Laura's Note: This article is preaching to the choir here, I know, but maybe some of us can use a reminder not to beat ourselves up for not succeeding at following the conventional "wisdom" on recovering from childhood trauma or other difficulties that occurred in the past (because for trauma, especially the childhood variety, it doesn't work) -- and to remind ourselves that it's not only OK to abandon to "let it go" method, but far more productive and healthy in the long run to take the...

I spent many years absorbing the blame for my abusive family, and exhausted every possible avenue of attempting to “get along” with them. When I finally went no contact, it took another 10 years to feel safe enough to fully embrace my past and grieve. Even though I thought I had done quite a bit of work along the way, it has taken an entire lifetime for me to come to terms with certain aspects of the abuse. Some memories were locked away, some were buried under misplaced guilt and shame.

Thanks Laura, great article. No, it's certainly not about "getting over it." Contrary to what the author said, though, I've never read any books that suggest that. But I realize that mainstream thinking supports the "get over it" mentality. I just read an article that said, on average, trauma survivors—especially those with C-PTSD—require l0 years or more of (effective) therapy. That certainly fits with what I've experienced in my psychotherapy practice and for me when I, too, was in...

Laura: Thanks for the share. I appreciate the reminder as well! Cissy

Oh. My. Goodness. You have no idea how this article rocked my world this past week. So I have this pesky little highway phobia I have yet to conquer. Emphasis on YET. After 4 years and 98 sessions with EMDR, we never did find the trigger memory. There I was in Denver this past week, having flown in on only half a Xanax (I usually require multiple Xanax starting the day before a flight), in my son's car as he drove down a crazy packed highway in downtown rush hour traffic. I tried every...

Not sure I've run across that sentiment in any books I've read, but it is definitely a favorite in the mainstream--I see it on social media constantly, and it irks me every time (well-intended though I think the suggestion usually is). I see it as part of the "toxic positivity" trend currently in full-swing. That is a sobering statistic -- 10+ years. C-PTSD does not go down easy. It's stubborn and hard to root out from the nooks and crannies of our brains. There is no mere "letting go" of...

Wow! This is such a beautiful thing to read (not the part about the intractable highway phobia, of course ). You just never know what is going to come along out of the clear blue and give you the boost you need to overcome -- of course, you have been priming that pump for a long time with all that good, diligent self-care. I am thrilled to hear that you avoided a panic attack and flew Xanax-free (and that maybe this post played a role in that). In fact, as someone who's motto is "Xanax --...

This made my day! Thank you 😁 Your flying motto made me laugh out loud as it has been mine, as well, for thirty-something years. As a matter of fact, when I traveled to Mexico a few years ago with a group of 8 friends, they dubbed me Captain Xanax on the plane 😂 I'm such a fan of being drug-free though that I try my best to overcome without medication. Just my own personal goal.