Tagged With "Kristi Parr"

A few months ago, I decided to make some changes in my life to address my problems with anxiety . I told my husband I was going to do one thing every day just for myself. I called it radical self-care, and I felt very good about it. I have two little kids and don’t get much time to myself, so the idea of doing one thing just for me, every single day, certainly felt radical. I jumped in with both feet, insisting on taking a walk or spending time doing yoga or even just sitting alone on the...

Great advice!

Thank you for posting this, Laura. While I appreciate the sentiments expressed by the author and get what she's saying, I always bristle when I read about a backlash to what, in fact, is sound advice. Self-care is important. Period. No one says there's a one-size-fits-all approach. When sound advice becomes a trigger, that doesn't mean the advice is wrong. It means you can use that as an opportunity to take responsibility for why you feel triggered—without blaming the messenger—and use that...

You know, Diane, I would regret posting this article, if it weren't for the opportunity for discussion it provides that you have recognized and acted upon. Thank you for that. At first glance, the author's view seems short-sighted and she seems bent on "self-care bashing", perhaps because of her frustration at seeing her anxiety worsen instead of improve as she attempts to "do" self-care. She does, though, come around at the end to this notion: If you feel strongly about developing a...

Great discussion (And i should have said "great advice at end "). I too was in the "Hurrying to get things done mode" (to get off my computer and go do something self careish Good self reflection there as well! For me it reminded me that sometimes my "self care" becomes crammed into my busy life and BETTER self care would be to slow down and take a break (and NOT feel guilty about that choice!).

Yep. Don't know about you, but sometimes for me self-care is just another item on my to-do list .... gotta work on that ....

Hi Laura, I love your well-thought-out analysis. Thanks for sharing your insights. I had read the entire article before posting my comment and wonder, as you noted, if the beginning was click bait motivated. At the same time, all articles are worth posting when they raise worthwhile discussion and reflection. I reacted to this article because one of my biggest pet peeves is when authors seem to try to boost themselves/their approach by denigrating others. I see this with a backlash to...

I think the author has a misunderstanding of what self care actually is. It isn't bubble baths and a trip to the spa. Its clear boundaries. Its knowing what you need emotionally, spiritually, physically and creatively and making sure that you get that every day. Its taking a nap when you need to, saying no when you want to, and making space to take care of yourself on your terms. Its about meeting your own needs first, so that you keep your cup full and serve others from the overflow, not...

So true, Heidi. I hope for her sake the author finds her way to the deep, genuine self-care that you describe.