Tagged With "Survivor Stories"
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The Healing Place Podcast: Barbara Rubel, MA, BCETS, D.A.A.E.T.S. - How to Help Suicide Loss Survivors & the Traumatic Impact of Suicide
Barbara Rubel is a suicide loss survivor and leading thanatologist. Thanatology is the scientific study of death. As a thanatologist, Barbara Rubel specializes in suicide loss survivor grief and educating professionals about traumatic loss. The third updated and revised edition of her book, But I Didn’t Say Goodbye: Helping families after a suicide, just launched on Amazon.
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The Healing Place Podcast - Louise Godbold: Echo
Louise Godbold is the Executive Director of Echo. Before joining Echo in 2010, she worked for over 15 years in the nonprofit field, both in nonprofit management and as a consultant. Louise is the developer and lead trainer for Echo’s curricula on trauma and resilience. She is a trauma survivor and #MeToo silence breaker.
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We Need to Help More Trauma Survivors Value Self-Care (44 min podcast)
We focus on self-care in trauma-informed therapy. But it's all too easy to forget to apply it to yourself! Even if you’re well on your way to healing, it’s important to remember that your past experiences may still impact the way you take care of yourself today.
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What is Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD)?
Most people have heard of post-traumatic stress disorder that afflicts many men and women returning from a war zone. It is characterized by flashbacks, unstable moods, and survivor’s remorse. However, many have never heard of a condition that often develops in childhood and changes the course of the child’s life forever, complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). For a good definition of CPTSD, we turned to Beauty After Bruises, an organization that offers outreach focused on adult...
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What Survivors of Complex Trauma Want You to Know [marieclaire.com.au]
By Grace Back, Marie Claire, October 28, 2019 The 28th of October marks the tenth anniversary of Blue Knot Day, established by the Blue Knot Foundation to raise awareness of the more than five million adult survivors of complex trauma. This year's theme was: untangle the knot of complex trauma. Blue Knot Foundation President Dr Cathy Kezelman AM said Blue Knot Day was about uniting Australians to help untangle the knot and complexities of trauma and abuse to support the recovery, resilience...
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Why Trauma Survivors Can't Just "Let It Go" [themighty.com]
Laura's Note: This article is preaching to the choir here, I know, but maybe some of us can use a reminder not to beat ourselves up for not succeeding at following the conventional "wisdom" on recovering from childhood trauma or other difficulties that occurred in the past (because for trauma, especially the childhood variety, it doesn't work) -- and to remind ourselves that it's not only OK to abandon to "let it go" method, but far more productive and healthy in the long run to take the...
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From One Survivor to Another, Helping Survivors of Human Trafficking Escape and Stay Safe [sandiegotribune.com]
By Lisa Deaderick, The San Diego Tribune, December 22, 2019 Marjorie Saylor remembers a woman who was looking for help leaving her trafficker. The woman was pregnant and waiting for a bed at a shelter to open up, but she had to wait on the street, alone and in the cold. Her trafficker found her and took her with him. “I never heard from her again. She only had a week left to go before her bed opened up, but the two weeks she toughed it out waiting on the street kept her in harm’s reach,”...
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Need 45 Trauma-Informed Practitioners or Clinicians For Study on Using a Brain Regulation Headband-Bellabee Designed To Help Trauma Survivors Regulate Their Brains.
Need 45 Trauma-Informed Practitioners or Clinicians For Study on Using a Brain Regulation Headband-Bellabee Designed To Help Trauma Survivors Regulate Their Brains. All trauma informed practitioners who are suffering with or who work with adults or children suffering with C-PTSD, PTSD, Developmental Trauma, Depression, Anxiety, ADHD & Sleep Disorders are welcome to apply to be considered for this study. The deadline to request and submit your application is: March 20, 2020 As a trauma...
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Need 45 Trauma-Informed Practitioners or Clinicians For Study on Using a Brain Regulation Headband-Bellabee Designed To Help Trauma Survivors Regulate Their Brains.
Need 45 Trauma-Informed Practitioners or Clinicians For Study on Using a Brain Regulation Headband-Bellabee Designed To Help Trauma Survivors Regulate Their Brains. All trauma informed practitioners who are suffering with or who work with adults or children suffering with C-PTSD, PTSD, Developmental Trauma, Depression, Anxiety, ADHD & Sleep Disorders are welcome to apply to be considered for this study. We currently have 41 applicants, and applicantions are approved on a first come first...
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Preparing and Advocating for Medical Care as a Trauma Survivor
With all the health care changes and challenges in today’s society, going to the doctor or dentist is difficult enough for the average person. With a history of childhood or adolescent sexual trauma, a medical appointment can become re-traumatizing if not handled with care by the survivor and provider. Think about it, some other adult is making decisions on the survivor’s behalf, touching their body, has their hands in the survivor’s mouth rendering them unable to make their needs known or...
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Resources for ACEs Survivors
With the link between ACEs and health outcomes now firmly established, many people are asking how to help those who have survived ACEs. Often people are seeking written resources. Having developed resilience curricula that were piloted at the University of Maryland School of Public Health and taught to various high-risk populations, I’d like to suggest some resources. As an outgrowth of these trainings, I developed three books that are skills-based and experiential, since information alone...
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Take Care of You in Troubled Times
Self-care strategies work. In my book, “Goodbye Anxiety, Hello Freedom”, I share 35 different strategies, as one-size- doesn’t -fit-all! Today, I’ve got 5 simple tips to share that will help you relax and find your emotional balance. The #1 Most Important Thing to Add to Your Self-Care Routine Limit how much media you consume and how often. I’ve said this for years and now it is absolutely critical. Checking the latest news over and over again is like taking a jackhammer to our nervous...
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Ten Tools for Trauma Survivors [http://somethingtosayafterabuse.blogspot.com]
A couple years ago, I hit a serious wall. I was emotionally and physically exhausted, but didn't understand why. Sure, I was a mom, wife, graduate student, and ran a business, but this exhaustion went much deeper than my chronic state of busyness and hypervigilance. Sure, I knew I had a rough childhood and had gone no contact with my parents ten years prior. I got on with my life. I made many positive and deliberate changes so I didn't repeat their patterns, but I hadn't fully unpacked just...
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Re: What Survivors of Complex Trauma Want You to Know [marieclaire.com.au]
I can't praise this article enough. The survivor perspective is so valuable and gets far too little attention. And a knot is exactly what complex trauma feels and behaves like. Thanks for posting this here, Rafael.
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Re: What Survivors of Complex Trauma Want You to Know [marieclaire.com.au]
I like that she mentions dissociation. I have been going to therapy for over 30 years and really had no idea about dissociation. I though it was something you could put a verbal memory to or just spacing out for a bit..... but dissociation is so much more. I don't think that childhood trauma can be healed until the treatment people all come to understand a whole lot more about dissociation and about how much of the symptoms of complex PTSD are really not accessible to the conscious mind.
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Re: The Healing Place Podcast - Louise Godbold: Echo
I think I've said this before here, Teri, but one thing I love about your podcast is it highlights how MANY people there are doing such awesome work pertaining to preventing and healing ACEs, including many folks who are active on this site. It give me great hope for the future.
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Re: The Healing Place Podcast - Louise Godbold: Echo
Thank you, thank you! I feel blessed to have this beautiful community at ACEs Connection where I have crossed paths with so many incredible souls doing healing work in the world. I continue to be amazed by their wisdom, determination, and brilliance. Truly. I, too, have great hope for a trauma sensitive world. Peace, Teri
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Re: Why Trauma Survivors Can't Just "Let It Go" [themighty.com]
Thanks Laura, great article. No, it's certainly not about "getting over it." Contrary to what the author said, though, I've never read any books that suggest that. But I realize that mainstream thinking supports the "get over it" mentality. I just read an article that said, on average, trauma survivors—especially those with C-PTSD—require l0 years or more of (effective) therapy. That certainly fits with what I've experienced in my psychotherapy practice and for me when I, too, was in...
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Re: Why Trauma Survivors Can't Just "Let It Go" [themighty.com]
Laura: Thanks for the share. I appreciate the reminder as well! Cissy
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Re: Why Trauma Survivors Can't Just "Let It Go" [themighty.com]
Oh. My. Goodness. You have no idea how this article rocked my world this past week. So I have this pesky little highway phobia I have yet to conquer. Emphasis on YET. After 4 years and 98 sessions with EMDR, we never did find the trigger memory. There I was in Denver this past week, having flown in on only half a Xanax (I usually require multiple Xanax starting the day before a flight), in my son's car as he drove down a crazy packed highway in downtown rush hour traffic. I tried every...
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Re: Why Trauma Survivors Can't Just "Let It Go" [themighty.com]
Not sure I've run across that sentiment in any books I've read, but it is definitely a favorite in the mainstream--I see it on social media constantly, and it irks me every time (well-intended though I think the suggestion usually is). I see it as part of the "toxic positivity" trend currently in full-swing. That is a sobering statistic -- 10+ years. C-PTSD does not go down easy. It's stubborn and hard to root out from the nooks and crannies of our brains. There is no mere "letting go" of...
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Re: Why Trauma Survivors Can't Just "Let It Go" [themighty.com]
Wow! This is such a beautiful thing to read (not the part about the intractable highway phobia, of course ). You just never know what is going to come along out of the clear blue and give you the boost you need to overcome -- of course, you have been priming that pump for a long time with all that good, diligent self-care. I am thrilled to hear that you avoided a panic attack and flew Xanax-free (and that maybe this post played a role in that). In fact, as someone who's motto is "Xanax --...
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Re: Why Trauma Survivors Can't Just "Let It Go" [themighty.com]
This made my day! Thank you 😁 Your flying motto made me laugh out loud as it has been mine, as well, for thirty-something years. As a matter of fact, when I traveled to Mexico a few years ago with a group of 8 friends, they dubbed me Captain Xanax on the plane 😂 I'm such a fan of being drug-free though that I try my best to overcome without medication. Just my own personal goal.
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Re: We Need to Help More Trauma Survivors Value Self-Care (44 min podcast)
I enjoyed this "drill-down" into how hard it can be for trauma survivors to recognize their need for self-care and to practice it. It's so common for folks with a history of trauma to minimize their experiences and their effects -- it's part of survival, and it tends to be part of the family culture that allows certain types of abuse to persist. I liked what you had to say about how sometimes self-care can be as simple as using your favorite hand lotion--that self-care is about what feels...
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Re: Preparing and Advocating for Medical Care as a Trauma Survivor
Very helpful article, thank you. One of my friends records on her smartphone any meeting with a doctor where a procedure or diagnosis is explained, which I think is so useful as trauma history or not, we often forget the details of what the doctor said.
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Re: Preparing and Advocating for Medical Care as a Trauma Survivor
Lara... This is great article and thorough in addressing the issues sexual abuse survivors face with their medical needs. I'm a psychotherapist with an expertise in childhood sexual abuse and have seen first-hand the anxieties survivors face anticipating medical appointments. I've helped survivors with this by teaching relaxation and visualization techniques to use during exams. You're right that their trauma-based fears and anxiety keep many from getting the preventive care and other...
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Re: Preparing and Advocating for Medical Care as a Trauma Survivor
Excellent article. And oh-so-true. I know when I was searching for a new doctor, I specifically started inquiring if the physician took a holistic approach to healing as I did not want someone who simply wanted to throw a pill at my symptoms in order to make them go away. After all, masking the symptoms was something I had experienced for over twenty-five years as I tried to wrestle my panic attacks. Once I started respecting my needs on a holistic level, that's when true healing and symptom...
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Re: Preparing and Advocating for Medical Care as a Trauma Survivor
Lara, this article is so valuable. As you point out, medical appointments are difficult but necessary -- I am guessing it's not uncommon for those who've experienced trauma to avoid seeking medical care and exams because of anxiety and fearfulness over a physical exam (or even triggering questions or comments). This guide could make a real difference in a lot of trauma survivors' lives. Thank you.
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Re: Resources for ACEs Survivors
These are wonderful. Thank you for sharing, Glenn! To make sure community members can access your books as more recent posts push your post down the Blog Posts list, it would be excellent if you could add these 3 books to this Resources for Downloading folder . Or I can add them if you would prefer; please let me know!
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Re: What is Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD)?
Matthew, thank you so much for this in-depth definition of C-PTSD. It's especially important to inform trauma survivors of its existence since in the DSM-5 it's lumped in with PTSD. It can be enlightening and can facilitate healing when one understands CPTSD's unique characteristics and challenges. I'm also glad you mentioned the C-PTSD Foundation and Beauty after Bruises, both of which I'm intrigued by. While understandably there's much emphasis on helping children overcome traumatic stress...
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Why It’s Important to Identify as a “Trauma Survivor”
My clients aren’t running around town wearing “I’m a trauma survivor” t-shirts. Of course they aren’t. Who wants to announce that bad things happened to them? No one! And yet, unfortunately, many live with the aftereffects of trauma every day and don’t know it. Trauma is what happens to your nervous system after you’ve felt unsafe and scared, and powerless to escape or protect yourself. If a person can’t eventually resolve that sense of danger, that person’s nervous system is likely to...
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Re: Why It’s Important to Identify as a “Trauma Survivor”
Thank you, Robyn, for this excellent article. What a difference it would have made in my life if what you explained in this article had been known decades ago. As I started learning about ACEs around five years ago, I became less afraid of sharing my story because I could prove the things that played out in my life after my CSA were not my fault.
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For Survivors of Childhood Trauma: How To Find REAL LOVE
For people who were abused and neglected in childhood, one of the cruelest ways the damage shows up is in romantic relationships. Too many of us go through life either alone, or in relationships where we’re not loved, not safe, and not happy. It doesn’t have to be that way. If you have Childhood PTSD and you’re wondering why you keep attracting people who are either dysfunctional, unavailable or abusive -- you’re going to want to read this... READ FULL BLOG POST or.. WATCH THE VIDEO ON...
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Re: Why It’s Important to Identify as a “Trauma Survivor”
Hello Robyn, I always enjoy reading what you share on healing trauma. Thank you.
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A Safe Place For Men
Each day from Thanksgiving until Christmas, hear the voices of male survivors of childhood, adolescent or adult sexual abuse share their stories of hurt, pain, joy and triumph as they heal from the aftermath of betrayal and trauma. You are not alone https://www.safeplaceformen.com/30days Thank you Thomas! Honored to help kick this series off – gifts of healing. Take care, Michael Skinner https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/ www.safeplaceformen.com #safeplaceformen #malesexualabuserecovery
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Survivor Stories Online - Friday, December 11, 2020 8:00 PM – 10:00 PM
Survivor Stories Online - Friday, December 11, 2020 8:00 PM – 10:00 PM GET YOUR FREE TICKETS for this Zoom event at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/survivor-stories-online-tickets-129044969979 Survivors of sexual abuse and assault are invited to read a poem, tell a story, sing a song, share in any way they see fit. Survivors of sexual abuse and assault are invited to read a poem, tell a story, sing a song, share in any way they see fit. Speakers and performers include: Musician, Advocate,...
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The Disconnect of Trauma and the Lies We Follow
Honored to be part of the Survivor Stories event hosted by Michael Broussard of Ask a Survivor. Performing two songs of mine and sharing the back story to their creation - "Songs For The Keys To Your Life"and "When Your Heart Follows A Lie" “ Go to where the silence is and say something.” - Amy Goodman Survivor Stories- Michael Skinner - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ehkz2kkkIa4&t=40s Take care and share as you wish...Michael Skinner A diagnosis is not a destiny “ Our lives begin to...
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Free Mindful Music Group Lessons for Youth and Adult Survivors
Music Beyond Measure engages trauma survivors in arts-based, healing-centered programs that teach coping skills through music education, collaboration in songwriting, and empowerment through performance. Based in New Jersey and serving the tri-state area, MBM is a registered 501c3 organization dedicated to individual and community healing through the arts. We are so excited to present our new Mindful Music program, which merges quality music instruction with mindfulness techniques meant to...
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Offering Trauma Informed Creative Expression for Healing
We believe creative expression is a human right, but it is a right that can only be exercised when we feel safe to be seen and heard in an authentic way. We welcome you to join the A Window Between Worlds (AWBW) network of 600+ art workshop facilitators who use our trauma informed program with the survivors they serve, their staff, volunteers, and advocates, to further awareness and fundraising initiatives, and beyond.
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NH Business Review -Q&A INTERVIEW with Michael Skinner, Advocate for Survivors of Child Abuse
Michael Skinner has represented male child abuse survivors on Oprah, spoken to the National Press Club, and been a keynote speaker at a conference presented by the United Nations and the State Department at Georgetown University on the sexual exploitation and trafficking of children and adults. He’s also been the advisor/consultant to SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at the national level, helping to implement trauma informed care. Skinner’s professional...
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Survivor Stories with Michael Skinner – Music & Sharing
Hey folks, A little blast from the past, but still relevant today - Honored to be part of the Survivor Stories event hosted by Michael Broussard of Ask a Survivor. Performing two songs of mine and sharing the back story to their creation - "Songs For The Keys To Your Life" and "When Your Heart Follows A Lie" The songs encapsulate some of the many feelings, thoughts and lessons learned about the impact of trauma, abuse and mental health injuries which I get to talk about in the Q & A.
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Survivor Stories: Michael Skinner Registration, Wednesday, Feb 1, 2023 at 7:00pm - 8pm EST@ Eventbrite
Survivor Stories: Michael Skinner Registration, Wednesday, Feb 1, 2023 at 7:00pm - 8pm EST@ Eventbrite - https://www.eventbrite.com/e/survivor-stories-michael-skinner-registration-518058355487 Sexual abuse survivor Michael Skinner tells his story and takes your questions. Ask A Sex Abuse Survivor utilizes the arts to raise awareness about childhood sexual abuse. Ongoing projects include the interactive theatrical show Ask A Sex Abuse Survivor, art shows, spoken word showcases, and film ...
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Survivor Stories with guest Michael Skinner - YouTube
Survivor Stories with guest Michael Skinner - YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hIcufSmFCXo&t=33s A thought provoking discussion and insight on healing from trauma and sexual abuse. Presented by Ask A Sex Abuse Survivor - Amplifying survivor voices worldwide "I attended this event, and Michael has a gentle approach to making sexual and physical trauma stories become meaningful and a source of hope." - Jacek_Jack Haciak
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7 Tips to Help Trauma Survivors in a Healthy Way
One of our most popular articles of all time is on Loving a Trauma Survivor . This article continues that idea — how to help a trauma survivor, in a healthy, positive way. Loving a trauma survivor may mean you also want to help them in many ways. You may want to help them heal, help them live an easier life, and help them be happy! This is natural and usually comes from a loving, kind, generous place. While your help and support can begin in wonderfully positive ways — do you ever feel...