Tagged With "Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome"
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ACEs Connection's Inclusion Tool makes sure nobody's left out
We developed ACEs Connection's Diversity, Equity & Inclusion Tool — called the Inclusion Tool, for short — to ensure that ACEs initiatives across the world focus on being inclusive when forming a steering committee, recruiting leaders, providing education about ACEs science, recruiting members, or providing resources and services within their communities. The more inclusive your ACEs initiative is, the more diverse it will be, giving your initiative a real shot at achieving equity and...
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Community Wisdom on Sleep (www.tarabrach.com)
This is a really nice resource shared on Tara Brach's website. It has links to meditation as well as ways others have found to improve sleep or manage sleep issues.
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CPTSD: How to Transform Fear, and Develop INNER STRENGTH
Now that the pandemic has us all in a crisis situation, we’re about to find out to find out who falls apart in a crisis, and who rises up to serve, lead and encourage others. The ones who shine are not always who we expected — have you noticed this? Here in California we’ve been sheltering in place for over two weeks now. Everywhere in the world, we’re trying to figure out how best to respond to the pandemic, how best to care for ourselves and the people we love. It’s a work in progress. For...
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For Valentine’s Day, Try Being Nice to Yourself [nytimes.com]
Valentine’s Day prompts many of us to send messages of love to the special people in our lives. But I’d like to propose a new tradition. Why not use this day to start being kinder to ourselves? Being nice to yourself, particularly during a personal setback or a stressful experience, is known among psychologists as self-compassion. It’s a simple concept — treat yourself as kindly as you would treat a friend who needs support — but it’s one that most people find exceedingly difficult to adopt.
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Fuzzy Slippers: How Do Self-Care as a Trauma Survivor
When I recommend the need for self-care to trauma survivors, they say it can feel like a chore. Some of them even roll their eyes and tell me, “You mean you want me to take care of myself? Ugh. Who has time for that?!” It’s tempting for any person to undervalue self-care. But for trauma survivors, resistance to self-care has much deeper roots. Healing takes a focused, gentle approach. Self-Care as a Practice of Welcoming Your Needs Many trauma survivors learned to do without self-care...
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New Book: Crazy Was All I Ever Knew By Alice M. Kenny (pseudonym)
To this day, I still think of my childhood home as "the crazy house." Like me, millions of adult Americans are living with the effects of the precarious childhoods they experienced as offspring of mentally ill parents. If you are one of them, you can no doubt relate to my book. As a child, you most likely lived in a crazy house of your own. As an adult, you’ve probably retained and may even relive memories of your tumultuous upbringing. Crazy Was All I Ever Knew combines memoir with...
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Seven Benefits of Working with a Therapy Animal from a Handler's Perspective
Sometimes I feel selfish for walking away from our therapy dog sessions with my heart overflowing with joy, a smile radiating from my face AND heart. I love watching this dog turn a child’s tears into giggles. Sammie has a thing for kids. Her tail wags every time she sees one. Whether we are walking the halls at a school or the trails at a nature preserve. She wants to meet them all and offer a snuggle. As a result, her tail thumps in canine happiness, and I just can’t help but grin.
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Re: 2018 National ACEs Conference: Morning Movement Session
Such a wonderful way to build self-care and mindfulness into the bustling #ACEsCon2018 conference. Truly walking the talk! Thank you too for sharing Renee's YouTube video which has such a nice pace for starting or ending the day. Very nice. Karen
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Re: The Science of Kindness (2-minutes randomactsofkindness)
Very nice, thank you for sharing Dana. “Kindness can transform someone's dark moment with a blaze of light. You'll never know how much your caring matters. Make a difference for another today.” Amy Leigh Mercree
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Re: How We Decompress From Stress [www.npr.org]
It's nice to hear other people talk about what they do to relieve stress -- and the video is a welcome change of pace from articles (not that I have a thing against reading -- it's actually among my favorite pastimes and stress relievers). This made me think about the everyday things I do to relieve stress, beyond the more obvious activities such as yoga, meditation, and writing. Thanks, Morgan.
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Resilience
This is a blog I posted a few years ago which I hope might be helpful to others, I have learned so much on my journey of healing childhood wounds and am so happy to see resources like this group available to help others. 15/11/2017 “If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world“ – Sydney Banks. While there are many words to describe resilience such as spirit, strength, toughness, buoyancy, no one truly understands just how many...
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Re: Healing the Hidden Wounds from Childhood: The Promise of Healing, Part II (Glenn R. Schiraldi, Ph.D., Lt. Col., USAR, Ret.)
Beautifully put and described - this is what I came to learn only after leaving my career as a family doctor and retraining as a somatic trauma therapist specializing in chronic illness. May this work of increasing awareness and becoming trauma informed spread throughout the health sciences and beyond. Thank you for this and it's nice to know of your work and workbooks
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Re: Healing Is Never a Solo Journey
Mary, I am very grateful for your response. I kept myself out the piece, but I also have deeply conflicted feelings about my own family. This makes "belonging" in general a difficult issue for me. Being with my husband's Very Nice Family can leave me feeling like I'm swimming in swill! One of the most difficult things can be the apparent craziness of our own reactions to current situations that aren't on the surface problematic. AND YET. Our reactions are not crazy. Our lives make sense,...
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The most important thing you can do with your kids? Play with them! says Dr. Bruce Perry
“The most important thing you can do with your children is play with them!” said Dr. Bruce Perry, noted child psychiatrist and author. He was answering the question, “How do we prepare our children to go back to school next fall?” Perry, a brain expert specializing in how children are impacted by trauma, gave a presentation on his neuro-sequential model of brain development to more than 800 people at an Austin Ed Fund event Monday evening. The co-author, with Oprah Winfrey, of the new book...
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The Surviving Spirit Newsletter May 2021
Healing the Heart Through the Creative Arts, Education & Advocacy Hope, Healing & Help for Trauma, Abuse & Mental Health “ Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars”. Kahlil Gibran The Surviving Spirit Newsletter May 2021 http://newsletters.survivingspirit.com/pdfs/2021-05-The_Surviving_Spirit_Newsletter_May_2021.pdf Hi folks, Greetings from New Hampshire....spring has arrived and the weather has been all over the place –...
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Re: Beautifully Paired: Promoting Mental Health Through Arts and Education [greenvillesun.com]
Nice article!!
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Honoring and Remembering My Precious Son
June is Jesse’s birthday month. Each year, since my six-year-old son’s murder in the Sandy Hook Elementary School tragedy in 2012, people from all over the world continue to come together in the form of concerts, 5K’s, and online events to honor, remember, and celebrate all the lives lost on this tragic day. In a recent interview with a reporter, as we were talking about my organization’s annual Month of Fun fundraiser, he exclaimed how amazed he was that Jesse’s spirit seemed to continue to...
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Taking a Vacation Might Save Your Life [discovermagazine.com]
By Leslie Nemo, Discover, August 11, 2021 Vacations are about more than dips into the pool or long naps (though those are nice). The time away from work and possibly spent with loved ones is good for our physical and mental health, as study after study shows. Sure, researchers can’t account for how every vacation detail might change how people feel when they clock back into work, says Brooks Gump, a public health researcher at Syracuse University. “The quality of the vacation, the length of...
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12 Commonalities A Harvard Doctor Found In “Health Outliers” Who Had Radical Remissions [lissarankin.com]
By Lissa Rankin CURED Tip #1 Activate The Relaxation Response As I described in detail in my book Mind Over Medicine, one of the keys to mind-body-spirit medicine in general and the field of psychoneuroimmunology specifically relies on making lifestyle changes aimed at creating nervous system regulation, flipping the nervous system from disease-inducing “fight or flight” sympathetic nervous system stress responses or “freeze” dorsal vagal parasympathetic responses to the homeostatic healing...
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My Biggest Insight of the Summer (Healing Complex PTSD and Chronic Illness)
Spring in my garden is a riot of color. I caught the above pic of my poppies just past their peak after deciding to replace them and wanting to document the process. Because uprooting a cheery, bright colored plant that makes me happy in order to take the chance that something else might do an even better job can feel, as a friend of mine once quipped, "fraught with peril." And that's what it can feel like when we are in the process of healing. When, instead of believing that this is the...
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Re: The Fascinating Relationship Between the Heart and Brain (4-minutes HeartMath Institute)
So nice to see this video in our world. Been following this with some great meditation teachers!! Yahoo!!!! Lynn Sharpe Underwood Principal Lecturer - Criminal Justice Systems Department Alliant International University, San Diego’s small, private university A: 10455 Pomerado Road, Office: C-8 San Diego, Ca President Joe Biden recently signed a number of executive orders to advance racial equity: enacting policies that promote diversity, equity, and inclusion training, ending the Department...
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THE HEALING POWER OF MUSIC
THE HEALING POWER OF MUSIC by Michael Skinner “ Music can heal the wounds which medicine cannot touch.” - Debasish Mridha Music has a profound way of touching us in so many ways. For myself, the power of music has given me great joy, hope and healing. Music has been a lifesaver for me and that is not something I throw around lightly. I would like to share with you how it has affected my life in so many positive ways - I am forever grateful to have the gift of music in my life. Music...
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Radical Compassion: Reflections from the 2022 PJI Summer Retreat
The Peace and Justice Institute at Valencia College is dedicated to furthering community healing and resilience - a goal that continues to be realized through its convening of the Creating a Resilient Community (CRC) Network . This movement has grown to include over 400 local community members. After the group's most recent annual conference in April, PJI has intentionally continued furthering this work both in the community and at its home institution, Valencia College. PJI believes that...
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Saturday Spirituality Group w guest Jessica Nathanson
Saturday, November 24 @1130AM ET Jessica Nathanson https://www.thegloriousbothand.com/ Topic: Discussion of Spirituality and Spiritual Practice to Stay Sane in an Insane World Time: This Saturday! @11:30 AM Eastern Time (US and Canada) Every week on Sat Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83898966952?pwd=b2plR21IV1JLa3dKUFBnMkZWZVlNdz09 Meeting ID: 838 9896 6952 Passcode: 808014 One tap mobile +16465588656,,83898966952#,,,,,,0#,,808014# US (New York)...
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How Hope is Different From Optimism
Hope is different than optimism. It’s better. If you’ve been following my posts lately, I’ve been discussing how hope (as measured using the Adult Hope Scale) acts a personal resource against burnout, low job satisfaction, and PTSD, for example. For most people, the science of hope is a new concept. We use hope as if it were a wish - “I hope it doesn’t rain” or “I hope you’re feeling better.” Nice sentiments, but not much else because you don’t have control over a wish. In essence, you’re...
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Happy Relationships through Honest Sharing
A wonderful guide has been published recently which explains on how to establish contacts which really nourishes the deep need for connection. https://honest-sharing-local-groups-gopal.org/Happy-Relationships-through-Honest-Sharing-Guide.pdf This guide brings the Polyvagal Theory and the results of the ACEs study into real practice. You can also check out the following blog to get a connection to people allover the world practicing Honest Sharing already:...
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Four ways to really take care of yourself in the new year
As the world starts a new year, we start a new day — and every day is an opportunity for growth and change. Every day is a good day to take care of ourselves. You don’t have to start on January 1 st with a New Year’s Resolution , and you don’t have to wait until next year if you have already missed starting on the first. Give yourself permission to start taking care of yourself every day! Last blog post article I wrote, I provided some guidance on how to notice your needs with compassion .
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For Better Relationships and Self-Esteem, Replace Common Mr. Nice Guy Thought Patterns
The Mr. Nice Guy syndrome's dysfunctional thought patterns are common in survivors of adverse childhood experiences. Uprooting these patterns can improve self-esteem and relationships.