9/2/2020 Laura and JB Byrch - Trauma Support Outside the Professional Setting
Laura and JB Byrch talked with us about trauma support outside the professional setting. They started off by saying they fully support formal means of support, such as therapy and support groups, but that sometimes people need more support. Here are some themes common to their relationships:
- Seeing each other as family may help us view others with more grace, openness, and acceptance.
- Celebrate small victories. This helps keep a focus on positives, strengths, and accomplishments.
- Instead of differences, see commonalities
- Instead of problems, see opportunities for connections.
- Have tolerance for a lack of gratitude
- Be willing to relinquish control
- "Stick-to-itiveness" - you never know when change is going to happen so hang in there.
- Boundaries - not only for our own wellbeing but to help others learn healthy boundaries as well
- Patience - when someone is acting childish, imagine the hurt child within
- Be aware of what is yours and needs its own work
- Always look for strengths, what people do well, what people have to share
A few notable quotes:
"Relationships do not always look like we want them to or think they should. Notice and appreciate the reality of the relationship."
"Relationships should be mutual (without power imbalances)"
And the one that resonated with us the most:
Father Gregory Boyle: “Here is what we seek: a compassion that can stand in awe at what the poor have to carry rather than stand in judgment at how they carry it.”
A reminder that these are not just for professionals or services providers. We want to broaden our audience to include parents, people currently impacted by ACEs, and others in our community. Please share widely!
***Next week Suzi Woodard will join us. Her topic is Trauma Therapies, ACES and Resiliency: My Personal and Professional Journey
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