My Kindle eBook "Don't Try This Alone: The Silent Epidemic of Attachment Disorder" will be free on Amazon for 5 days this Mon Oct. 29 thru Fri Nov 2! On Monday, go to my Kindle link below for a free copy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07BN2J4TN
What you can’t see, can hurt you. I'm grateful to Carolyn de Lorenzo for her Bustle post on Complex PTSD (C-PTSD), featured in the July 2 ACEsConnection Daily Digest: What Is Complex PTSD? There Isn’t Nearly Enough Awareness Around This Illness. She defines it as trauma "experienced over extended periods of time... before the age of 18 without reliable adult support.” Yet digging further, the root cause of C-PTSD is usually something deeper, "developmental trauma." Developmental trauma isn't...
The adult human head would never make it out of the birth canal, as I say in my new book Don’t Try This Alone: The Silent Epidemic of Attachment Disorder at https://www.amazon.com/dp/1976120128
I'm so grateful to have received seven 5-star reviews on Amazon of my book “Don't Try This Alone: The Silent Epidemic of Attachment Disorder” at https://www.amazon.com/dp/1976120128#customerReviews Samples: “ The world needs this book! Until now, all the books on this I've seen are by therapists… I've wanted to hear what it was like from behind the eyeballs of someone who has done the work.” “ Full of the scientific why of trauma... A must read. Am buying copies for friends.” “ As an...
Without music, I'd have been dead long ago. So I'm especially happy that several reviewers of my book "Don't Try This Alone: The Silent Epidemic of Attachment Disorder" have picked up on the role of music in my healing. “I'm glad to read about the role of music in healing that this book describes,” writes L.S. “When Kathy writes about how she sang Handel's 'Messiah' every year forever, it reminds me how my dad used to take the family to 'Messiah' every year... So healing...” “She shares her...
I'm done! I've just finished a seven-year trek to publish my book, first in paperback, and now as a Kindle eBook. Go to my Kindle link for a free sample which Amazon has selected to show the whole public in Kindle: "Don't Try This Alone: The Silent Epidemic of Attachment Disorder" - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07BN2J4TN With both published, the saga of discovering how sick with attachment disorder I was, digging deeper and deeper into it -- then climbing back to be healed from the inside out...
Please join me and my friends at Calo Programs, Attachment and Trauma Network (ATN), the American Adoption Congress (AAC) and the Association for Training on Trauma and Attachment in Children (ATTACh) for their "Campaign to Heal Childhood Trauma." It's a six-city bus tour May 4-11 to raise broad public awareness and engage people in inter-active workshops; here's the website: www.endchildhoodtrauma.com From the Campaign's flier: Calo Programs is partnering with three of the nation's leading...
Don't Try This Alone: The Silent Epidemic of Attachment Disorder" on Amazon 2-28-18; Kindle out soon... http://www.amazon.com/dp/1976120128 Thank you to my ACEsConnection community for all your support for the last five years during the daunting experience of documenting this story... Kathy was an overachiever—an economist, technical writer, and classical singer married 27 years to her college sweetheart. It looked like Kathy was fine. But deep within her hid a pain from infancy so severe...
Dr. Peter A. Levine discovered 35 years ago that wild animals recover from trauma by tremoring spasms of their body core and flailing of limbs, to complete the fight-flight they were in before they froze. Levine shows a National Geographic video of a polar bear chased by biologists (just to tag him) and then shot with a tranquilizer dart. As the bear wakes from freeze, its body trembles intensely, its legs thrash, and it makes biting motions over its shoulder—replicating and completing all...
Today is a six-year milestone for me: I've just uploaded my book "Don't Try This Alone: The Silent Epidemic of Attachment Disorder" to Amazon's editors! 😸 😍 It should be on sale 2nd half November. A professional artist designed a new book cover so I also just changed my website today to show it off. Here's my new website showing parts of the book jacket: http://attachmentdisorderhealing.com/allan-schore/
Dr. Bessel van der Kolk MD just posted a webinar on Neurofeedback that knocked me out. "Nothing I know can do that," he said, on first seeing Neurofeedback's results. This changes the map of trauma healing. Watch now; it may not be up long. I had a big emotional reaction to his revelations on how my brain still doesn't work in some areas . Click for van der Kolk video and to see what happened to me: http://attachmentdisorderhealing.com/neurofeedback-van-der-kolk/ Please forward this your...
On April 27, "Healing Orange County from Childhood Trauma" held its first meeting in Mission Viejo, CA at a local restaurant from 6 to 8 pm. We posted it on meetup.com as the founding meeting of Orange County (CA) ACEs Connection. I was honored to co-create the meeting with my dear friend Dana Brown, Southern California director for ACEs Connection. We felt awe as three education activists, six professional trauma therapy providers, individuals suffering child trauma and a total of 12 people...
I went through three bad therapists before I found my current one, and for the first two years, I kept asking him the same question: “You’re just a hired gun, right? ‘ What’s love got to do with it ?’ ...
Guest Blog by Amelia [ Amelia is the pen name of an EMDR therapy client of Dr. Sandra Paulsen, pioneer of new EMDR protocols for developmental trauma/early trauma (ET). Amelia graciously provided this blog to inspire others to seek healing. Again, please let's carefully research Neurofeedback , EMDR and other treatments before deciding what's best for us –kb ] In 2013 I began working with Sandra Paulsen, PhD. I am very grateful for the early childhood trauma (ET) work...
C ourtesy of Dr. Sandra Paulsen (left) & D. Michael Coy, MA, LCSW [Kathy's preface: First I discovered it deep within myself and called it trauma since the sperm hit the egg. Then I read that Bessel van der Kolk calls it developmental trauma, in his drive to have it finally recognized by the psychiatric profession. Dr. Allan Schore calls it trauma in the first 1000 days, conception to age...
I've been researching neurofeedback in depth, to start doing it for my own Adult Attachment Disorder with a local therapist. I'm prompted by a recent radio show by neurofeedback expert Sebern Fisher (left), and Tina Hahn's results in her blog, " My...
Eye Motion Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a potent trauma treatment developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro (left). "EMDR is effective and well-supported by research evidence for treating children with symptoms accompanying...
I’ve used Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) aka tapping for years, as I wrote in Part 1 , which described “what is tapping." Now for how to tap. “The basic technique requires you to focus on the negative emotion at hand:...
I’ve used Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), popularly called “tapping,” for four years, and gotten major relief from severe fight-flight emotions like fear and anger (emotions I could feel). I’ve also gotten relief from...
Why Dating Never Heals Emotio nal Pai n People with attachment troubles or other child trauma often ask: why is dating so difficult? It is, for a reason. So instead of the dating hunt, I invested my life, fortune, and sacred honor...
Dr. Daniel J. Siegel is giving a webinar (live internet seminar) this Weds April 8 at 5 pm Eastern Time, repeated at 6:30 pm Eastern, to kick off NICABM’s invaluable 2015 "New Brain Series" of weekly webinars. Sign up to watch free...
Here are tools available “right now” which I use anytime, even at 3 am when friends or therapist can’t be reached (tho’ I do leave voice mails and it helps enormously. Ask them to turn off their phone on retiring, then try it.)...
“ During R EM sleep, the brain is attempting to process survival information until it’s resolved. ” Eye Motion Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a potent trauma treatment developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro (left), a...
Part 1 of this blog Jan. 23 concluded that by 1978, Dr. Mary Ainsworth’s estimate for U.S. babies was that (A) 23% were Avoidant insecure (avoid parents); (B) only 69% were Securely Attached; and (C) 8% were Ambivalent insecure (unhappy and...
Only 55% of us have “secure attachment,” which would worry us all if we knew what it meant, according to research on over 2,000 infant-parent pairs. The math says the other 45% of us suffer “insecure attachment.” ...
Psychotherapist Sebern Fisher gave a great webscast Oct. 14 in the NICABM series, about neurofeedback (biofeedback to the brain), which gives us access to our brain function frequencies. The brain gets organized from the womb in oscillatory patterns,...
For the many new readers signing up to my attachment and trauma website, bless you for your patience. I'm new to Attachment Disorder Healing, too -- and it's my website. I fell into all this by accident, when attachment disorder hit me upside...
… Dr. Ruth Buczynski, that is (so, relax...that's her at left). A peak inside the minds of cutting-edge psychotherapists on how to really heal trauma is in her latest blog today. She says their latest “Aha” is that...
Dr. Porges says that whenever we do NOT get mammalian attachment, our nervous system pushes us back into reptilian freeze on auto pilot. We don't have a say; it's not cognitive. Furthermore, for attachment to work, we need what he calls...
Dr. Stephan Porges discovered in 1994 that trauma in humans comes from our most ancient "reptilian" freeze reflex, as I wr ote la st week . But Porges also says we can...
Dr. Stephen Porges discovered in 1994 that trauma in humans comes from our most ancient "reptilian" freeze reflex, which our brains share with some very low life forms. He calls it the Polyvagal Theory. Humans aren't made to be pushed into such...
The “General Theory of Love” (GTL) shows it’s vital to value our mammalian attachment system. We need to stay close to other mammals. This week I've got some great quotes and MP3 audio clips from General Theory, to follow up on Dr....
Dr. Stephen Porges writes that mammals like us aren’t made to be traumatized. We’re made to attach to other mammals, which makes us feel safe, secure and good. When that fails, we’re made to fall back into fight/flight; we get...
I’m healthy as a horse, but a body part was bugging me, so at my annual check up I asked to see a specialist. I love my family doc, er I mean “primary care,” and I love this specialist. They’re the best there...
When we last left Stewart the 92-year-old lawyer in Dan Siegel’s office June 25 , “the presenting problem was: his wife got sick, and he became more socially withdrawn… losing himself in his books,” Siegel said....
Dan Siegel’s webinar “How Mindfulness Can Change the Wiring of Our Brains” which I found by accident in March 2011, says we can heal from emotional childhood damage. And in his own office, Siegel actually used "neuroplasticity" to...
In August 2010 I learned chunks of my brain weren’t firing due to adult attachment disorder from infancy. I thought I was a goner and almost drove off this freeway overpass. Yeah it's the I-91 near Anaheim, CA. It was no trip to Disneyland...
Dr. Daniel J. Siegel uses his “hand model” of the brain to show schools kids, and the rest of us, how we need all three of the brain’s main parts to be working, and to work together. Say the wrist is the spinal cord. Then...
Dr. Daniel J. Siegel introduced me to brain science, and I write about brain scientists like him ‘cos they saved my life. Without them, I’d still be a successful, all-head talk technical writer for Pentagon sales. I’d be unaware of...
As ACEsConnection has reported, the New York Times May 22 spotlighted Bessel van der Kolk and his idea that to change the way we heal a traumatized mind, start with the body, (Dr. van der Kolk, center, in session, drawn by Matthew Woodson for...
Dr. Bruce Perry, MD, National Council, Washington, May 4: I had to transcribe a few quotes that really hit me hard from his speech, to provoke you to watch his whole video: “Born for Love: “Why Empathy is Essential – and...
I once met Allan Schore, a founder of Attachment Theory, at a UCLA conference. I was a total stranger, but his actions showed: he walks the walk on attachment. He got that “emotions are ok” and only emotions can heal attachment pain. Dr....
