In both my personal and professional experiences, I’ve often observed a prevalent negativity surrounding individuals with avoidant tendencies. It’s understandable at a superficial level, as some of their behaviors, like ghosting or stonewalling, can undoubtedly have a negative impact on others. These actions often trigger reactions from those with secure or anxious attachment styles. It’s important to recognize that avoidant attachment is a form of insecure attachment, originally...

As a therapist who is dedicated to helping women rediscover their erotic essence, I've often been approached with whispered confessions of lost desire, hushed tones revealing a fading connection with oneself. The emotional landscape of sexual well-being is a profound territory, and today, I want to hold space as we journey through it, guided by the wisdom of Emily Nagoski's groundbreaking work, "Come As You Are." Understanding The Dual Control Model At the core of Nagoski's teachings lies...

However, it is possible to reclaim one's sexuality after trauma and engage in healthy, fulfilling sexual relationships. The first step in allowing oneself to be a sexual being after trauma is to recognize that it is normal to experience challenges with sexual intimacy following a traumatic event. Trauma can disrupt one's sense of safety, trust, and connection with others, which can make it difficult to engage in intimate relationships. It is important to seek support from a qualified...