Even awesome "top down" therapy doesn't heal trauma.
Esther Perel has a podcast https://www.estherperel.com/podcast with 19 different one-time sessions with couples. I was impressed with her technique and perceptiveness working with her couples. One of the sessions called "You Need Help to Help Her" with a couple who were dealing with their daughter's mental illness particularly moved me. As good as Esther's skill is, it is a "top down" type of therapy, cognitive. In a session called "Leaving the Shame Behind", she seems to believe that...